Because having a neutral third party’s opinion would be helpful when it comes to shit like a partnership that is not going well AT ALL.

Well if you want to email me, it’s bunnymoon54 “at” hotmail dot com. Use any of your usernames or jezebel in the subject line so I know you aren’t trying to sell me viagra:p

I’m so sorry! I didn’t see this reply until now and only because I was digging through my old notifications.

The day a woman leaves an abusive relationship is the most dangerous day of her life—more so than childbirth.

It’s the “if I can’t have you no one will” mentality and it’s terrifying beyond words.

Can’t stand to see her leave, yet can’t bear to see her live either. I will never understand this line of sick, sick dudethink.

I’m dealing with a verbally abusive estranged husband (we have a child together) who has some narcissistic qualities. He has been trying to manipulate me into coming back to him with guilt and “family values”. I’m being very careful because I’m never sure he won’t become dangerous. But his recipe for awfulness seems…

Correct. Because in this case, she did leave. And this is what happens.

One researcher has shown that domestic violence and murder can be predicted. It’s been some time since I read the article, but apparently there is a window of opportunity during which supporters can get a woman away from the harm or if laws are changed, perhaps get the abuser in custody. The article came out in 2013.…

Agreed. That’s the fucking worst thing anyone can say (after ‘what did she do to make him mad?’ which I’ve heard a lot from decent, caring, intelligent people, believe it or not.) I used to do a lot of work with female survivors of domestic abuse and severe physical violence. There should be ‘emotional education’ in…

There needs to be more education on it period. A lot of people still victim blame and that “Why didn’t she just leave?” is still tossed around.

I hope they get the prayers they need for comfort, but also I hope the government invests more money in domestic violence intervention. There’s almost always an escalation in threats and violence so there may be warning signs, but the authorities often can’t act on them until it’s too late. Domestic abuse is a unique…

I find it interesting and pretty fucking infuriating that he is mad at you for taking away HIS power, when he’s taken yours away. You may have some luck contacting a local organization for battered women, they usually also have services for those who are being emotionally abused. They may be able to help you find…

I was in a somewhat similar situation, I understand why that complicates everything. I’d moved 9 hours away from my family, living in his uncle’s house in Louisiana. I felt trapped with the kids. I stayed until he finally beat me badly enough to call the cops. I don’t know what to say to help except that you have…