That sounds so familiar, just so familiar. It’s like my husband just can’t do the adulting thing in any way whatsoever and it’s fucking infuriating. And I can’t figure out why asking him not to be an asshole is such a huge deal. “I want you to want to have sex with me.” Really? I want you to not be an asshole. That’d…

To have a real-life reminder that she is not crazy—and that it is not her fault—no matter what her husband tries to make her believe. Getting counseling isn’t a punishment here. It’s help. Likely quite necessary help. Even if she can’t escape the situation, having just the individual counseling can help her keep her…

No viagra but we’ve got plenty of stray hot wheels cats around here that I’m willing to give away for only shipping and handling.

It’s all right. It’s harder for me to check this account, anyway, due to current circumstances. But I really do appreciate the thoughts.

Sorry it takes so long between replies. Can’t take chances of this burner being discovered.

It’s... not better, but not worse. Mostly, it’s super confusing and things go back and forth. I do have an exit strategy in case things become completely untenable or I or my son are in danger, but given the circumstances, it’s a last resort at the moment. We’re trying counseling, but I dunno. We’ve had long, civil…

Ha. My spouse proclaims his love all the time and constantly seeks to make sure I reciprocate. Said love doesn’t stop him if he’s in a mood, though. Jekyll loves me. Hyde doesn’t. You never know which one you’ll get.

Sounds like my spouse, only without the estrangement/separation. You’re right—you never know when/if they’ll become dangerous, and you live in fear of when their next explosion will be and if that will be when it turns into physical violence. The vigilance follows you and eats at you, eating up sleep, appetite,…

Financial security, even short term, is a huge deal. People are told to save to escape, but if money is already incredibly tight, saving enough to make any sort of difference isn’t going to happen, despite trying. Transportation can be another huge issue. If they take a car, who’s name is that car in? If it isn’t in…

Sometimes there’s no choice, not a real one.

Is that email offer to talk still open, by chance?

(turns out he only follows my main)

(turns out he only follows my main)

Turns out he follows my main and that’s it.