I didn’t think you were being insensitive! I thought you were being sort of flip-serious. And maybe my answer read as overly serious. Maybe we’re BOTH just insensitive. Or TOO sensitive. :D I totally agree with what you’re saying, though.

I totally remember that about Belle Gibson. And a handful of…

God, I hear you. I relate to that feeling a lot, and I lost a friend to cancer this year and I remember feeling helpless/unsure how to help best, especially once she was REALLY sick, and then feeling selfish and self-centered for worrying about MY feelings.

My MIL was treated for cancer, also this year, for the third…

Ohhhhh. GOTCHA. Yes, he is textbook that for sure.

I only intermittently watch the show (I get my RHOC news from Jez and the like, but follow it pretty closely)...do you think he’s really a sociopath?

If you don’t go “full cancer” and/or don’t stretch it out for a long time, it’s something that might not raise flags— cancers are treated in so many ways; some of them don’t “show” in the stereotypical way.

For someone with a factitious disorder, though, it’s hard NOT to go full cancer because that’s what gets you the…

This, this, this.

I think factitious disorders gonna fact...ate? and I think we’re often instinctually drawn to be like “he/she’s just a fucking LIAR” but, yeah, there’s a reason it’s in the DSM, because it’s a real problem, even though it’s difficult to empathize with or comprehend the way one might, say, depression.

I…

Not with cancer though!

Well, you might be, but I probably am too :D Hard not to read this stuff through the lens of our own experiences. What happened to your family sucks, and I can see why you said what you did. I’m sorry.

I just don’t want to think that the two seeming villains in this little celeb gossip story are 100% assholes who just…

The thing that is driving me crazy about this whole situation is that they seemed to be handling it all gracefully UNTIL the Voice was back for another season, and all of a sudden Us Magazine is getting all these “scoops” about Gavin’s behavior and trying to make “Gwen & Blake” a thing...

I am a devoted student of…

I am sure your...concern...comes from the right place, but this assumes both that Gavin wasn’t using protection and that the nanny is just riddled with STDs, because they both did OTHER “bad things.” Not to mention, of course, assuming that Gwen doesn’t have any chronic ones herself that she takes care of and…

Ugh, you’re a good Tater. It was just Halloween! I expect more “wut is a blakcface sound like just MAKEUP to me *makes slobbery gnashing sounds with teeth*” for Arbor Day because the thinkpieces and reminders aren’t fresh. This...sigh.

This is making me hungry haha.

I said a really long thing about this to Gentle Pancakes above, but if they do it unbidden, and don’t charge you, then cool.

The problem lies in going to another place that has a charge or doesn’t split and going, “Well, [X PLACE] does this all the time for us, why can’t you?” They just can’t. That’s their deal.

The Hasselhoff of plating is the worst part. He’s all wasted, keeps forgetting to change his gloves... :)

If they’re charging you a split fee, there’s no need to avoid it; that’s their price for the extra work. If you’re splitting filets and you want one half rare and the other well done, take the person who wants it…

No, if they don’t charge a fee and do it unbidden, that’s their prerogative and it’s safe to say they are fine with doing it.

I have gotten a few replies with examples of people saying the place they go to splits their stuff all the time, and that’s cool. The places that do that are the places that do that; there are…

No, no, that’s a perfectly good reason to split. But I meant more that it’s not wrong on the restaurant’s part to enact policies to discourage or lessen the number of people who do split and/or to maximize profit on tables that choose to split because they are getting one entree instead of two.

Your reasons are valid,…

That’s what I think too haha. Everyone loves leftovers! But some people will fight to the death on this issue.

Well, the reason a lot of places charge a split charge is twofold:

1) people typically want the plate...split. Holla all yall who have ever heard “well but we wanted it SPLIT, NOT JUST AN EXTRA PLATE GAWD.” It’s extra work for the kitchen, and it doesn’t result in any extra profit for the restaurant, because it’s just…

OMG took me a minute but OMG

I just gotta say I’m having flashbacks to my industry days in Boca and surrounding areas reading your comments on Max the Elder :D