This is like when I moved in with my dad for six months* (full confession: yes, it was incredibly shameful, so sorry, I did, but still). He ROUTINELY took 45-min, multiple-flush dumps. When he had to get the drains snaked and then excavated**, and such, it was because “Kotex can’t be flushed. Make sure not to flush…

Someone pointed this out the other day and I wanted to share because it’s helpful: this person is an iteration of TomatoFace, ubertroll (recently SweetChelsea, among others) and you can tell because Debaro is a varietal of tomato. It’s their thing.

Eh, I hear you. I think she and I were talking about just that (albeit in a way that doesn’t really address the complex history of that area). I can see how that would be taken in a way that I am pretty sure wasn’t intended. I think your point is totally valid even if I thought it was tone-deaf at the time, and I also…

I’m sorry, I just saw your reply— I guess I’m confused by your original comment: “I wish people wouldn’t continue to perpetuate the myth that the Poles were all courageous anti-Nazis; it leads to the refusal to acknowledge...” seemed to me to read as...well, exactly what you said. That those of us talking about our…

Sounds right to me!

I love Boulder. I have a friend that did a couple years at a yoga institute there; when she was moving there, I almost went with her— because I love it there— but ended up taking a job where I was touring and never did make it. I mean, if there’s ever a place where rolfing is in high demand, it’s Boulder. :D My…

I would like to second Mindy— there’s no question that many Poles participated in the worst of the pogroms, but there were also many brave people who did not, and actively fought against the Nazi regime. Certainly, no one in this conversation has said that “all Poles were courageous anti-Nazis.” Describing one’s…

I know they say “sporty” so everyone is saying Kate Hudson, but is Betty White NOT sporty for 93? I think she’s sporty as hell.

At least xoJane has served some purpose in the end. Not due to their own work, of course—that would be fucking crazy, that’s a job for journalists. xoJane is more in the business of exploiting personal misery for clicks.

I am so in love with your family :) Where are you thinking of for school? For what? Where’s Cindy getting hers?

I really do think that crazy sarcasm/black humor is Polish, or at least born of living in Poland and having your family communicate that sensibility to you haha. Eastern European, for sure (I seem to know a…

That is AMAZING! I wish I had even a quarter of the info you have about your family. My babcia’s older sister, my “ciocia Magda”* sounds like your great-grandma. She was not the marrying type, and was the one who supported my grandparents when they first came here. She was a sassy broad, as was my babcia— certainly,…

I just told Mindy the same thing (about missing my babcia). She’s been gone five years, and it was her time, but I am having some pangs right now for real.

Oh my god, that is so similar to my family! Crazy. My paternal grandparents came over in 1950 while she was pregnant with my uncle; I know my grandfather fought in the resistance but unfortunately (I guess understandably) nobody ever really talked about what was going on before they came over, he and my grandmother…

ohhhh you might be on to something. But that’s also so much less rad, so much more pedestrian, than cougar Betty doing lines at Dan Tana’s.

I think that’s it, the later immigration. Mine (on my father’s side) came over after the war, as well, and took longer to “assimilate,” if that makes any sense. My dad and uncles didn’t even really speak English until they started school.

I don’t know her.

Yeah! I was really confused by people who said “busia” until I realized that they’re sort of interchangeable in the US. My family actually uses “busia” now for the new generation of grandparents (our parents), which is funny but it’s like, NO ONE CAN REPLACE OUR BABCIA.

I want it to be Betty White— “Golden Girl”?? That’s the hint!

Her?

If my babcia were still alive she would ADORE “Closer.” And I just texted my little brother, who is really kind of overachieving, to tell him that Judge Judy was an “unremarkable law student” and look where she is now, so like, relax and fuck law review.