You know, it’s funny you say that about her being told she looks like her father... I have some pretty serious problems with how I look (fat, I think I’m very ugly, etc), and although my parents never made me feel bad about my looks, I was always told, since my earliest memories, that I look like my father (and to be…

+1 family is supposed to be your safe space to go until you are old enough and can deal with the world on your own. They are supposed to build you up so that you can be happy confident and carefree despite what the outside world may think or how the outside world may treat you. If she thinks life is bad for ugly kids…

I totally disagree with Julia Baird. Your parents are supposed to be a soft place to land. “Telling it like it is” will hurt that child and harm their self esteem. So what if the child is unattractive, they’ll figure it out in the long run but they will come armed with parents who instilled in them solid confidence…

It sounds like you might need to check why this is bothering you so much. Based on what little detail you provided “could stand to lose 10 pounds” doesn’t represent a health risk by any means so why is it important? Is it just about the way she looks?

Eh, I disagree. I think it’s fine, and good, to tell your kids they’re beautiful, and to mean it both inside and out. This post from Girl’s Gone Child goes into it better than I could:

lol this is so true. My elder brother got married recently, and we just received all the wedding photos of our family. My grandmother and I were looking through them, and she said, in all seriousness, that she has such a good looking family. I smiled, yes that’s nice, we had all cleaned up well and were dressed nicely…

I have to deal with this issue all the time. My child* is extremely handsome and I tell him this every day. But I sense he is becoming arrogant from the prideful expression on his face. And some say he is spoiled since I let him jump on the table all the time.

I tell my dog that she’s the prettiest lady in all the land every single day. But only because it’s true!

serious question - i have an 8-year old girl. she could stand to lose about 10 pounds. her mother will absolutely not tell her that she needs to lose weight. she’ll tell her to exercise, but if the kid asks why, she’ll only tell her ‘cause it is healthy, and then nothing comes of it. my wife will absolutely not allow…

I'm fine with people telling their kids they're beautiful as long as it's not just the girls getting this treatment. Kids definitely notice when the girls are largely complimented with "pretty" or "nice" while boys are complimented with "smart" or "brave".

I think most people eventually learn that their parents, particularly their mothers, are not the most objective source for such information. My mother thinks I’m so beautiful that she’s convinced I could have modeled (I’m 5’3”) or been a movie star. “You look like Natalie Portman, but prettier!” (Ed. note: No I…

Um, my kid is handsome as fuck and I tell him. He is also smart and funny and kind. I also tell him when he is being an asshole (I call it bratbot) and he knows he can’t win everything. He knows he’s overweight. He knows his brain works different from other peoples *he has ASD or ass buggers as he likes to call it*…

Call all kids beautiful so that the word ceases to mean what it once did, and grows to mean something more akin to “YOU MATTER AND HAVE WORTH”.

My husband and I haven’t slept together since our daughter was five. She’s 32 now. Our marriage is still going strong. She finds our sleep choices quite normal.

I can’t wait until my oldest kid goes off to college, because I'm totally shipping my husband over to his room. Separate bedrooms for the win. They’re right across the hall from each other. Sexy times can be followed by a solid night’s sleep. Glorious for everyone. 6 1/2 years left....

“Sleeping next to someone is great in theory: you get the benefit of their body heat, cuddles, and someone to throw in front of you if a serial killer comes in the night”

I realized just how brainwashed I had become when my 8 year old ( whose hair I would hot press into unnatural curls every Sunday night) said to me one day, “Mommy, is there something wrong with the way my hair grows out of my head? Is that why we have to change it?”

I graduated with a degree in comparative literature (*slinks off in shame*), and the person who gave our commencement speech said:

Definitely. Her instagram’s a mix of English, Portuguese, French...I never understand why people think models are dumb, most are fluent in at least two languages, likely more.

This makes me so happy. I’ve been wearing my hair natural for 3 years now and my ‘fro is AMAZING.