most THINGS that require hard work.

I can relate to that situation with the therapist. I harped on communication and not feeling comfortable enough to express myself. It only made things worse.

It’s true that most peoples response to you has more to do with them than you. But, if you can communicate the hurt to them in a way that allows you to see them, it helps heal wounds and limits resentment.

I’m going through a similar situation. I had difficulty being vulnerable when expressing things that upset me in my marriage. I’m working on that.
Brene Browns book Daring Greatly is a helpful read. As is The Assertiveness Workbook by Randy Paterson.

Get divorced. At the very least, you might end up familiar with “good moods,” and “date night.” The sex could be trickier. But, 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.

I can be an unfocused mediator at times, and shift between following the breath and coming back to it when my mind wanders, to sometimes also observing my thoughts. Although, now that I’ve been mediating for a couple of years, I’ve become more mindful of my thoughts off the cushion, and will observe them, which helps…

Thanks for posting. Gonna try that this weekend with my kids.

I thought a crappy dinner party was when I’m about to sit down to eat and my daughter needs a diaper change. She has terrific timing.

I agree with this advice. I just recently started dating again at the age of 40. I had met my soon to be ex-wife on an online dating site 12 years ago, so it wasn’t new to me. But, there’s so many people out there now that you really need to stand out.

If you want to know what you’re supposed to be doing to help plan your wedding, sit down with your fiance and come up with a plan together. If you can’t plan a wedding together, and one of you doesn’t trust the other to do what needs to be done, save yourself the money and call the wedding off now. Actually, my advice…

The only thing about my separation/divorce that bothers me (other than still having to see my ex) is that I worry how it will affect my young kids. I think they’ll be ok because they got a lot of love from both me and their mom, but I wonder how bouncing back and forth between homes is going to affect them. Luckily,…

If you like the chewier crust, I suggest greek style pita bread. It makes an excellent pizza dough. I add the sauce, cheese and topping and throw it in a pre-heated oven at 425 degrees for 10-12 minutes. It’s excellent.

I think about that Frankl quote often, and was just thinking about it today.

I think the best way to make a relationship work would be to live separately and give each other space to breathe. Missing someone, I think, is much better than wanting to be away from them. Obviously it all depends on the personalities and attachment styles of the 2 people involved. Either way, I think there is some…

D’oh! Thanks.

Can you tell me where you got those great Star Wars posters? Thanks.

Yeah, it works for waffles, too

Yep. Shaming people gets the exact opposite results.

Or, you go just go to the diner on a Sunday morning and eat pancakes alone while everyone else is with family.

Pancakes freeze pretty well. So, you can also make a big batch and then just pop then in the toaster later on.