Marriage is subject to “feelings change” unfortunately. Just because there is a legally binding agreement and maybe kids and assets, doesn’t mean feelings won’t change. It also doesn’t have to mean that you’ll be getting divorced, but your feelings will change, unless you are not a human being.

I agree. But, if it’s something they are gonna wear you want them to be excited about wearing it.

Yes. If you try and listen to your partner and they are blaming and shaming you, it will be very difficult to continue to listen to them and not have your stress response activated. You almost need to be a zen master and have endless amounts equanimity and empathy to get past that noise. I’ve tried. I am no zen…

This is great advice. Very difficult to achieve, but worth the effort. Trying to break through years and years of conditioning is not an easy task.

I felt the same way at the end of The Lobster, although I felt like there was some resolution, even though I’m not sure. Don’t want to give me take here for those who have not seen it.

I think both the males and females are sucking the life out of each other in marriage, but in different ways.

I meant, when they are looking at their phone while talking to me - not mine.

People looking at their phone while I’m talking drives me nuts. What makes me even crazier is when people are talking to me while they are looking at my phone. They’re taking up my time and not even giving me the courtesy of acting like they care.

I’m starting to think that dishwashers are all wrong. Maybe people should hand wash their dishes and then instead of a dishwasher, there’s a dish dryer. Personally, I don’t think washing dishes by hand is a big deal, but I don’t like hand drying them, or having a drying rack take up counter space. I would need to buy…

To go a step further, I’d say “respectful” communication. My ex-wife who was the loud one in the relationship often threw in harsh criticisms of me while “communicating.” And for me, and I think a lot of people, that just cuts off empathy.

My “rules” are: just love your children, and make sure they know that you love them. Accept who they are and their emotions. Don’t punish them. Don’t shame them. And when you’re stressed and can’t handle their craziness and you freak out try to be mindful of that ASAP, then make sure you apologize and let them know…

Tough for parents to teach these things to their kids when a majority of parents (people in general) have no idea how to communicate themselves.

As a society, I think we really need to start stressing the importance of this. It would be really great if this type of thing was taught to kids throughout grade school. Better communication can save relationships and make our lives much more fulfilling and less painful.

It takes time. I went through the mopey, depressed stage and hoped things would work out for us for a couple of months. But, not anymore!

Not sure what’s odd about making your own agenda. Saying to yourself, “I want to do this,” and then doing it without discussing with anyone is awesome. But, I guess a lot of people have a hard time being alone. Hence, this article.

And sure, it’s nice doing things with a partner. But, unless you are super compatible,…

My wife and I recently separated, and I am enjoying spending entire days alone and making whatever decisions I want to make. It’s GLORIOUS! So, here’s a big thumbs up to this article and to spending time alone.

Sometimes my wife will ask me questions while she’s in the middle of texting or looking at facebook, or whatever on her phone, which drives me up the damn wall. If you are taking up my time, at least be courteous enough to look at me.
I wonder how many people are addicted to their phones though? For people who like to…

Nothing wrong with going solo, as long as you’re cool with that. Or, maybe you just need a break.

The scrambled egg situation is a tough one. The best way to approach that may be, “I just saw this great scrambled egg recipe online that I want to try.” Then, you make the eggs for her that way and hope that she wants to do it that way next time, or she just lets you do it.

Last year I dealt with an ice dam by buying an adapter for my bathroom sink that I could hook up to an gardening hose. Then you run your hot water, point the hose at the ice dam and create a few channels for the water to get to the gutter. Worked like a charm.