Whew. All of this was a tough watch. What was also tough was watching the rabid MJ fan base lose their minds and threaten everyone involved in this documentary, including Oprah for giving these men a platform to discuss their lives. I saw so many “cancel Oprah” posts on Twitter, I lost count. It’s amazing how some…

Adding this hour was brilliant. Oprah really managed to connect the harrowing story, carefully told in the documentary, to the experience of other victims; to the millions of child sexual abuse survivors whose abuser wasn’t famous, by showing how the pattern of grooming is essentially the same (ie the story told by…

I think that’s probably pretty common. Not only did the parents of both of these men utterly fail them, but enablers often feel like safer/easier targets for victims’ anger than the abusers. That anger is a lot less tied up in the guilt and shame they feel about their abuse. Plus, the dynamic between abused and…

Because she has experienced it and spent a good portion of her career interviewing researchers, advocates, victims and abusers. I have a lot of problems with Oprah, but this is one thing she is actually qualified to discuss and has done a lot of advocacy on.

I didn’t know how profoundly After Neverland was going to impact me. Really wish I hadn’t watched it. There was childhood sexual abuse in my family that I thought had been neatly tucked away but this film ripped that fucking wound right open. I doubt I’ll get a good night sleep for a long while.

So considering i don’t want to be labeled a sexist misogynistic man baby...

If you want to avoid being labeled a sexist, misogynistic man baby, all you need to do is avoid engaging in sexist, misogynistic, man-baby behavior.

I can’t wait to hear from trolls how this is an attack on white men!

you should learn more about him then. He was a really stand-up actor in Hollywood and a somewhat underrated talent. He was also a big ally for the LGTBQ community.

It stars a woman beater tho, so there’s that.

That tweet left out the best part of the photo—Antoni from Queer Eye:

Oh, god, I hooked up with a guy once who kissed like that, and I am horrified to learn it looks just as bad from the outside as it is to experience. A big mouth, opened wide, leading with the tongue - all you get is teeth and tongue and saliva. It’s like making out with a horse. Quite possibly the least sexy thing on…

And his abuse continues. In the public eye, now.

Something has always troubled me about the whole MJ story. If he loved and admired and desired to spend so much time including sharing his bed with children, why weren't there ever any little girls around. This alone makes me think that he was sexually attracted to young boys.

Sorry, may sound harsh, but the guy was a freak show in his adult life then practically canonized after his premature death. Where there is that much smoke there was most assuredly some fire at one point. Can’t believe how many people still defend him.

Even with an adult witness, adults close to perpetrator will deny any wrongdoing.

Any idea that he was asexual or too childish to know about sex falls apart when you look at Lisa Marie Presley who has stated that their marriage was fully consummated.

This notion of “imperfect victims” makes my head hurt. MRAs and their ilk sink their teeth into this imperfection (i.e. “she called him after”, “how can we trust him-he uses”). Abuse traumatizes people and trauma can often lead to questionable decision-making. It’s not complicated. We need better language to support…

He discusses the fact that an “air-tight” investigation is somewhat impossible with child sexual abuse, since there’s typically no material evidence and there are few, if any, witnesses. It’s usually “he-said-she-said.” And he acknowledges that these men were CHILDREN when these crimes occurred, and there may be…

To be clear: as a journalist and a writer you are hurting SURVIVORS and not helping us by using language like “imperfect victims” in your work.