Ugh. I hate those universal declarations about clearly subjective opinions anyway, but especially with the mental health bit which is neither funny nor clever.

All Im saying is if he were so sorry he wouldnt have took the job.

Intermittent fasting is definitely a thing. Whether it’s a thing beyond a potentially disordered attempt at weight loss is another question, but it’s definitely a thing.

in a thread about how your M&M preference is indicative of your mental health

As I said, I do sneeze. I redirect the force to come mainly out of my mouth.

I was just told I’m “not doing it right” because sneezes are an orgasm for the nose. What the fuck are sneezes like for other people?!

I’m low-key terrified of it happening, now!

It is very nice and optimistic (and naive) that you think that going through the legal process causes justice to occur in more than 0.0001% of sexual assault cases.

I do this...I find sneezing very painful, so I half do this, half plugging my nose and letting the force come out of my mouth. Which works well 99% of the time, but sometimes doesn’t go right and hurts. (Also, sometimes I squeak and my officemates laugh at me.)

I’m pretty sure they’ve sent flyers around accusing defectors of being pedophiles.

They don’t lack empathy for those who are like them.

Wait, what? Some women have orgasmed during rape, and it is something that can lead to a lot of guilt and shame, despite the fact that it doesn’t alter that it was violent and awful. Bodies are weird and sometimes they respond in ways we wouldn’t want.

Not recognizing other people as beings with worth is also how systems of power like white supremacy, misogyny, and colonization work and we don’t generally call entire ideologies a mental illness.

It’s on the person initiating a sexual act to ask. That’s how the law works. That’s how consent works. That’s how not to be awful. It doesn’t matter the gender, it matters who’s initiating.

She also told him, many times, in many ways, during the evening, that she wasn’t down with what was happening. Regardless of her nonverbal cues (WHICH ARE A LEGITIMATE WAY OF CONVEYING BOUNDARIES), she made clear she wasn’t cool with what he was doing.

So you’re saying that repeated verbal and non-verbal responses like “Let’s just chill. Next time. I don’t want to be forced” and moving away over and over and over are just impossible to read? Really? REALLY?

“Speaking of this moment, as a culture we’ve gone from not listening, hearing or believing women, and how were we going to skip over the whole part where women get to be heard, and go straight to the redemption of the perpetrators?” Ferrera responds. “Can’t we live in that space where it’s okay for perpetrators to be…

She DID verbalize her feelings. Multiple times in multiple ways. She also expressed her feelings using non-verbal communication. Multiple times in multiple ways.

Thank you!

I swear by melatonin microdosing (I take .25mg an hour and a half to two hours before bedtime) and black-out curtains. Without both of those things I am a terrible sleeper. With, I sleep almost 9 hours a night.