This is it exactly. People who cheat tend to not admit to it until they have no choice but to admit to it. You can have a million conversations and most likely the only thing that will come of it is you being made to be a crazy bitch who needs to get her shit together. Looking for proof is not a good time, but it is…

I think your case is one where there's an exception to every rule. While snooping is almost never ok, in your situation there was enough abuse that it made sense. I know with my ex I did many things that I never would think were ok in a healthy relationship, but I had to do them to survive. So while I am very for…

Ha, thanks! I know that snooping is not the "right" answer, but it was right for me at that point in my life. I still wouldn't recommend paying someone to hack their SO's email - it just seems potentially messy to involve a third part. Besides, haven't these people heard of key loggers?

I have never been in your situation, but I completely agree with you and I'm so glad you're in a healthy relationship now after that awful one, you really deserve it!

I've gotten up to that many starts on Jezebel as well and I am still in the gray on this site. Despite being gawker approved, I must not be cool enough for Jezebel to like me.

"Recently, I had to get up early for a 7 a.m. flight to attend a family member's funeral. I only had about an hour's worth of sleep, because I was back and forth between phone calls making arrangements. Things at the airport were crazy as usual, and the flight wasn't looking like it would get out in time. Right at the…

Since Lindy didn't do a great job describing the situation, here's how I pictured it...

Yeah, she basically went from ruining her seatmate's day to everyone around her in earshot.

No, incredibly dense person (who is probably being this way on purpose). Leaning over them to put your bag into the overhead compartment is violating the basic personal space we all generally keep.

So.....you violated someone's space, he muttered something sotto voce, then you went and wrote an angry screed about it?

Also because a lot of these folks are foreign born and the AIDS funders like to pretend there is no undocumented population living with AIDS. What I hear all the time is "it's too complicated," and "we don't do that." Better to fund conference calls with the same 12 dorky and unfunny policy wonks who replicate each…

I work in higher ed. I've worked at two institutions since the 2011 Dear Colleague and there's no apprehension and there is no vast rape culture conspiracy. There are some schools that handle sexual assault terribly and others that handle it well. And most of the schools that are still terrible at it, don't yet…

To be fair, I think it's weird that anyone listens to Carrie Underwood.

You said "magical eight inches." Runs off giggling.

Well, of course someone needs to teach them how to talk to women. Just like chairs and microwaves, Republicans don't talk to things they treat as objects, so they need the practice.

I'm not talking about women who were unknowingly the other women. I feel really bad for those women. I've mentioned several times people who "willfully" engage in this type of thing.

Ok, let me get this straight. Sleeping with a married man- totally fine. Photoshopping a picture of a model? Evil. This site is nuts.

That's a reason, but it's a reason that would only make logical sense to someone with absolutely no sense of morality.

If we owe strangers nothing, then there's nothing wrong with going up to an old lady on the street and calling her a whore. It's not like you KNOW her.

Strangers owe me nothing, huh? Then it's OK for people to murder my dog, right? I mean it's not THEIR dog...it would only be bad if *I* murdered my dog. I can't believe people can say this, and then also talk about how it's wrong for men to ogle women. They're strangers, I thought they didn't owe you anything?