I think that you've got the right attitude in being willing to put yourself out there & risk him being a jerk. In the end being the person you want to be is all that matters anyway. When I was thinking about possible other reasons he may have, there are non-jerky ones too: maybe in the course of casual dating he…

OK, so forgive my suspicious nature, but this is a red flag to me. I mean sure, it could be exactly what he says, that he wants to get to know you better, love & unicorns, etc. Or it could be that there's another reason he doesn't want to be intimate, especially since you already have been.

SoCals Jezzies - With Henry Waxman retiring & his seat opening up, I was happy to see Sandra Fluke's name bandied about as a potential candidate for his seat. She's cool and all, and I'd love her to be my congressman, but where is the Aja Brown love? This woman is the youngest mayor Compton has ever had. Urban planner…

Yes. I tried it after my fear of flying went from xanax & a shot vodka at baggage check to having full blown panic attacks at the mere thought of getting on a plane. It worked well enough. I still have the fear when I fly, but it no longer stops me from doing it anyway.

I never saw Hermione/Ron lasting. He's the boyfriend high school boyfriend that going away to college puts in perspective. I don't really buy Harry/Hermione either, in part because I think Ginny & by extension the Weasleys (especially Molly) would be a better fit for his family/abandonment issues.

Ha, thanks! I know that snooping is not the "right" answer, but it was right for me at that point in my life. I still wouldn't recommend paying someone to hack their SO's email - it just seems potentially messy to involve a third part. Besides, haven't these people heard of key loggers?

I snooped on my ex husband & discovered that he was cheating. I don't regret it. I'd tried to talk about feeling uneasy about aspects of our relationship, tried handling it like an adult, tried to be understanding, all of that. The end of those adult, rational approaches left me shaken and crying in the corner,…

And as expected, any criticism is stuck in the greys, despite upvotes. Whatever, I just hope that Neetzan Zimmerman thinks twice before posting about him again.

So to recap:

Those in HIV/AIDS advocacy and education say it’s tough to reach this niche LGBTQ

Is it possible this is performance art?

Weird. A group of coworkers who still work for my former Nightmare Boss just called out of the blue and invited me to grab drinks with them when they get off work. I wonder if they were reading Jezebel?

It's wonderful they've found each-other. Now they can spend the rest of their lives with their perfectly manicured hands entwined while gazing into each-other's violent-aqua eyes, studiously ignoring us poor, dull and mildly irritating normals. Or as my mother would say: sounds like they saved two other people.

Good call. His silence on the CB article is deafening.

Love Olivia's classy version of Big Joe.

Los Angeles: the land of extra quiet stay at home women (who need no pants) and pious unmarried men in eye-liner.

I probably would have given away a ton of ice-cream. Whenever my HellBoss was particularly evil (like she would weed out job applicants that "sounded black" on the phone, and wouldn't even interview women), I'd do some thing from her list of NO: order the good toilet paper for the office, let the interns take over the…

His identity supersedes yours. And any desire to maintain your "'single person' identity"—your you-ness—is an insulting affront to the institution of marriage itself. Nicely put. I'm also in that stage of a relationship where things like marriage and children are being discussed, and the whole name-change thing has…

I think it's an Elephant trying to bury it's head in the sand.