it’s the myth of lack that fosters such a precious concern for her. she made her choices. she’s an adult. if we infantilize her aren’t we just negating our own agency as women as well?

I don’t think she expected him to live this long. She probably thought she’d be a wealthy widow by now

Yeah, I do not condone people making fun of her appearance or slut-shaming her (seriously people, fucking stop). But sympathy? Nah. She gon’ be okay.

I also don’t like the narrative that if a woman isn’t smiling all the time, she must be unhappy/bitchy/whatever. Weren’t we just defending Hillary from this nonsense?

If I date a Black man and a Black woman gives me the stink eye, which of the three is THE RACIST?

If Raineyb wants to undermine racism, she should stop being racist. There’s a start.

*Squints and tries to detect sarcasm*

You’re right. WoC can’t be racist. They can be “reverse-racist.”

WOC can’t be racist. Nice try.

Thank you for this. A woman isn’t lacking in agency just because she’s making decisions you don’t agree with. I might concede that she’s in over her head, but to cast her as someone so blank that she can’t muster up the power to make her own decisions is a disservice to both her, and other women like her. Just because…

lol deep-seated norm-ism!!!

Kinja’s fucking complicated! I don’t like the messiness. Anywho, enjoy your Monday/Tuesday as well!

lol I went back for you and saw that you assumed I was talking about you when I wasn’t. I was referring to a random guy who posted three comments under one of my posts. fyi

Started for making me laugh.

I thought he was a great choice for this monologue, I am a fan of Ansari. He is insightful and cutting but just so gosh darn nice, his humor, even about tough topics, makes me feel like we’re all going to be just fine.

TBF, doing shitty things without apologizing is basically his #brand. If he started doing decent things, who would he even be?

Brown’s offensive reference to the wrong ethnic origin goes nicely with Ansari’s joke about people telling him to “go back to...the country you’re from!”. His follow up is that the racists tend to not be geography buffs.

“People like that” 

Maybe he can’t catch a break because of all the shitty things he continues to do without apologizing.

I didn’t quite understand your second sentence, but I can definitely see that your singular dating experience shaped your overall opinion of an entire race of women. :/