Is it just me, or is it a little odd to be reading an article from Rich Juzwiak finger-wagging about political correctness?

today it’s rare to hear someone use the word outside of the context of a self-identifying label.

I’m a forgive-but-never-forget-...and-make-sure-everyone-knows-what-garbage-they-are  kinda girl.

Not directed at you GELLA, but it is funny (to me) how it is always described as one or the other. I find that I can cycle between the two poles multiple times in one day, at times! But usually it is more lengthy than that.

Not enough people fucking understand that, especially when the perpetrator hasn’t done anything to warrant forgiveness.

And also, if forgiveness is going to be given, it is for those who have been wronged to decide to give, not for some onlooker.

Forgiveness is something you give yourself to move on, to find peace, to let go.

I think she was a date who was (rightly) chaffed at being treated like a groupie.

Because I think there is a wide gap between pressuring someone (which it sounds like he was) and “predatory behavior”. The problem is when people try to equate the two.

Then she was free to get the fuck up and leave

they have already violated you in a very profound way.

“The single most distressing thing to me about Grace’s story is that the only person with any agency in the story seems to be Aziz Ansari. Grace is merely acted upon.”

Every time she expressed hesitation or said she wasn’t comfortable with something, he stopped. She doesn’t try to leave until the end and he doesn’t stop her. Instead he calls her an Uber. Also, she’s a grown adult too and doesn’t seem like she was forced into anything. Being inconsiderate is not the same thing as…

There some parts to the story that show these two people were on two completely different wavelengths and had a lot of misunderstandings. At one point, she sits on the floor in front of him and says she wanted him to play with her hair. She says he thought she wanted to reciprocate oral sex after he already performed…

I agree. I don’t feel like he sexually assaulted her and don’t feel like this should be included in the same realm as “me too.” I think he was very wrong and acted like an asshole, but she was always free to go. He didn’t force anything on her. This reminds me of the type of stuff they tell you in high school (“If a…

He was absolutely tacky. And we’ve all been there. But to call this an “assault” diminishes assault and removes agency from women. (Not arguing at you - just thinking out loud!)

This piece is unreal. I’ve been looking for Jez’s take on this for over 24 hours. They haven’t covered it at all except to say that Babe did it badly. Way to have those tough conversations, Jez

You put the label “church” on it and you can rake in those sweet tax exempt dollars.

It’s a crappy movie with limited views of white and of course an all but invisible minority view. In other words, its a typical white man’s version of a future in which white men question stuff and everyone else is just there (or not, in the case of POC) as part of a puzzle for him to use, abuse, and discard. Garbage…

A big part of the problem can be boiled down to four scenes: