Thank you so much for your advice! You made me face why I’m having such a hard time with this and I feel much better and more optimistic about what I need to do :)

Again, sorry for what is likely TMI, but my current guy is the quietist orgasm-er I have ever encountered. I had no idea that men could be so quiet! So maybe he thinks he’s found a perfect match and that I’m also an incredibly quiet orgasm-er? I’m definitely not, though, so if I ever end up having one with him, he’s…

You are so incredibly right! The longer I wait, the more disappointed and hurt I will be if he responds in the same way my ex did, and that’s really my biggest, deepest fear. And it’s probably somewhat of an irrational fear, because the guy I’m dating now doesn’t have any of the same emotional issues as my ex. But…

I definitely agree that saying what you want is healthy, and I wish I were better at doing that. But I also know from experience that some men and women are very sensitive to criticism about their sexual performance. In my past unhealthy relationship, the guy I was with criticized me for being too controlling and…

Thank you! That makes me really hopeful! In my past relationship that ended up being really unhealthy, the guy hated feeling like I had control over him (I’m incredibly embarrassed and regretful that I dated him for 3 years...). When I was honest with him about what I wanted and needed sexually, he thought I was being…

Nope, we haven’t sexted or tried phone sex. We don’t even text or talk on the phone. We do daily emails, but there’s never sex involved. Is there even a phrase or name for sex via email? :)

So this is actually 100% what I want to do, and I’m pretty much biting my tongue to keep from doing it every time we have sex. But is that really a healthy way to do this? Because I’m pretty sure that would end up traumatizing HIM, and I don’t want to be responsible for that...

Yeah, the last guy was a dick. Maybe I should have told my current guy about this when we started dating, or at least when we started having sex. It might be helpful for him to know why I would potentially have a hard time bringing up issues about our sex life.

Again, I’m sorry if this is TMI. I’m only able to climax from clitoral stimulation, not through sexual intercourse or g-spot stimulation. In the past, I’ve only had orgasms with partners during foreplay or after intercourse, never during. There are definitely things that previous partners have done that my current guy…

This is going to be incredibly awkward no matter how I do it. We don’t really talk about sex, we just do it, so however I end up bringing up this conversation, it will be very out of the ordinary...

You’re definitely right, but I don’t know what to say that won’t sound like I’m blaming him. I’m dreading this conversation so much that I’m afraid my dread is going to make me seem really critical and blame-y.

Did you eat unusually late? This has happened to me a few times when I’ve had a largish meal right before I go to sleep. I’ve figured out I need to give myself plenty of time to let my food digest before I lie down for bed.

Please let me out of the grays! And I’m sorry if this is TMI.

Hey all! I need some advice on sexy times. I’m having problems communicating my sexual needs to my partner, and I’ve basically figured out that it’s because I don’t have the self-confidence to talk dirty and tell him what I want. How do I work up the nerve to start doing this? Especially since we’ve been having sex…

“In the spirit of unity, togetherness, and sisterhood, Jezebel’s The Slot will be joining some of Gawker’s staff for a live-blog.”

I totally agree and it definitely seems like she’s not doing this for the money. She consistently seems to comment on and challenge things she views as problematic in society by exaggerating them and emphasizing their absurdity. For example, she thinks the media’s obsession with censorship of nipples is strange so she…

I know I’m going to be in the minority, but I kinda like it...

And you seem like an uninformed ignorant entitled sexist who has never considered the media’s biased treatment of women politicians.

Oh yeah, you’re totally right. Sexism doesn’t exist and there’s no difference between the way the media discusses Clinton and other politicians who are men. The appearance of women politicians isn’t constantly analyzed and scrutinized in ways that are completely absurd and ridiculous when compared to politicians who…

Believe me, I would if I could! I just feel like it will take a MIRACLE for me to meet one. How do I get to know someone who hates awkward small talk as much as I do? Sometimes it seems hopeless but hearing stories like yours is so uplifting.