I could not resist making a good white person cookie.

Would you have said the same thing to the white Mississippi freedom riders? They were good white people, too, and they paid the ultimate price for their decision to stand up for justice. Or the straight folk who mourned the death of Matthew Shepard? Or the men who fight for equal pay for women? Or the able-bodied…

PREACH! It's a weird kind of naricissm that can be almost impossible to see from the outside because these people do the right things for the wrong reasons. Each act of kindness/empathy/do-gooding isn't a gift; it's a request, sometimes even a demand for praise. At best, they totally lack self-awareness, at…

Again, it's not about white people's intentions. Think of it this way; if you were trying to explain misogyny to a man and he kept interrupting you to explain how nonsexist he was, saying #notallmenz. That's what "good white people" do to black people. That's what you did in reaction to this excellent and extremely…

yes exactly! I just replied to someone else who was basically asking me how to be a better white person and I just told her that it's not my job to teach her how to be "better". It always seemed to go back to "well yes this is a black/brown/Asian/etc. issue but can WHITE PEOPLE DO BETTER?" It's almost as if white…

This was fantastic and I echo what many others have said—looking forward to that novel!

My half white self hesitated to post this on my Facebook page since I'm basically playing into the whole I'm a Good White Person Please Pay Attention to Me thing... but then my half brown self was like AMEEENNNNN I'M SHARING THIS…

Would you have said the same thing to the white Mississippi freedom riders?

The point

Then why did you write that comment about what a good white person you are, and not once but twice "refusing to apologize"? Treating all your students equally and teaching them to respect each other is what is expected of you, not something that you need to be rewarded for, or that absolves you from needing to listen…

"Sometimes I think good white people expect to be rewarded for their decency. We are not like those other white people. See how enlightened and aware we are? See how we are good?"

Right. I don't want a prize, but also, don't basically tell me to shut up. That doesn't do anyone any good.

I am a good white person. ... And do you know what? I don't see a need to apologize for it.

As a white person myself (who tries my best to resist the racism embedded in our society), I think the idea is not that you shouldn't delete trolls or be outraged. It's that you shouldn't congratulate yourself for it. So many white people make it about themselves by insisting that they "get it" or that they're "one of…

This has given me all the feels. I am struggling not to cut all of the white people out of my life (kind of hard, given I'm married to a white man) and many of those people are "good white people." They are shocked at racism and racist behavior— so much so they I get links to racist posts on websites because they…

Great point, I yield. It's just wrong to hide what a good little guy you are. Self congratulatory cookies for everyone! Double chocolate? sugar cookies? I guess it doesn't matter because you don't see color. I read it on your FB status.

She wondered why my grandmother, an illiterate Black mother of nine living in the Jim Crow South, struggled to find a steady job. Maybe, she wrote in her loopy scrawl, my grandmother wasn't searching hard enough.

It may not even be specific to being watched, just general "something is off". Animals have to be alert to all kinds of small changes in the environment.

I figured it was more like:

"His name?"