Takes one to know one! Two classic moves by our boyfriends:

I didn't even consider that.

a tightrope act, really. You need to be able to trust that someone will be able to effectively call you on your shit, and also trust them to hear you fairly when you call them out on their own shit. That sounds nearly impossible, when you add sexual compatibility onto the list of requirements.

Internalized social mores! Huzah!

This is like, the quintessential synopsis of a lot of my relationships. I tend to date older because for some reason I keep thinking they are more mature, meaning emotionally developed, but they're just more mature in so far as their patterns are locked right in. Maybe they see me as a younger, small, and small-voiced…

Okay when I read your first paragraph my first thought was "don't you want to just kiss their mothers for raising them so well?" But your second paragraph illustrates how large an assumption that is. At any rate, he sounds great!

Oh sorry, I was speaking generally, and I didn't mean to suggest anything about your relationship specifically (I probably should have started a new paragraph with "because we do these things..." to make that more clear.) You were describing doing heavy emotional lifting without asking for credit and it made a penny…

I still can't tell if you are serious!

You know, now that I think of it, I am usually just relieved to hear my idea coming out of my boss's mouth. He gives me credit very loudly and publicly when he finally comes around to my idea (and I give him top points for this), but he does so because he thinks I am fighting for credit. Credit it nice, but what is…

(I just quietly put money into savings so our "spending" money is equitable.)

Last year my boss took some of my tasks and contracted a freelance professional to do them. I was really hurt. I thought, "I am challenging him too much and he is going to bring in a Yes Man." I really second guessed myself. My boss started off saying it was a matter of my lack of professional training in regards to…

Good for you; that's unintentionally hilarious, but it's a big red flag.

hahaha! Not the intentional interpretation but feel free to read it that way!

No, it isn't trolling if, rather than throwing someone off, you lob them the perfect ammunition with which to make a perfect ass of you, lol.

Are you fucking kidding me?

I seriously thought you were making a clever joke to underline the point of the article, and then scrolling down, I'm like "Dude... No... Whaaa?!.... No!.. DUDE!!!"

He was-he is- an extremely good person. Just had this big blind spot, as they do.

Probably just 30 people who wanted to feel clever for knowing a factoid, even though it didn't have much to do with your story.

It really does cut both ways. This phenomenon is bad for men and women, as is all sexism.