I’m a pear-shaped “inbetweenie” and yes, well-tailored clothes really are that hard. I don’t know why it’s so hard, but it’s rarity that I find something that I think is well-made, fits nicely, and worth what I paid for it. And I’m willing to pay for quality. Clothes are just shit now in general.

As a fat person, I would really like to see decent basics. A fucking white button down that doesn’t immediately pop open at my boobs. Jeans that aren’t jeggins- or “mom jeans”. Tee shirts and cardigans that aren’t priced 3 times as much as the skinny version (ahem-Old Navy) Just plain, well tailored clothes. Jesus, is…

That’s not a Buzzy Bee. No, that’s a bear in a bee costume.

Oh, I TOTALLY believe that being super touchy-feely corny as hell is his “move” with women. It just looks really really bad in photos.

Oh my gosh, 3 months of dating is almost like no time at all if you’re not famous. You’re dating just long enough to discover the other person doesn’t like cheese on their hamburgers and GIRL THAT IS WHEN YOU KNOW IT IS OVER.

You mention her as a scientist, a wife, a mom, and then, her stroganoff. You don’t start off with her stroganoff.

False. The ledge should have been her career achievements, which is why she got the big obit. Unless you think fine mothers and cooks routinely get NYT obits.

You do get it-

Well, if her male heir said it was important then by all means... Dude, this is part of the death by a thousand cuts women face every day. “It’s just a headline” It’s just a compliment” “It’s just a joke” “It’s just an ad” It’s just a music video” “It’s just the way they do things here” “well that’s what people think…

Neither of us is likely to have an obituary in the Times. If I somehow manage to make a contribution worthy of that honor, I would expect the author to lead with that, because that would make sense.

It’s good that she managed to overcome the handicap of not pleasing boners to still do something or other with her life.

It’s really puzzling that you’re so offended about this.

My favorite part is how they frame lack of aesthetic appeal and a likeable personality as contradictory. Who woulda known that a woman who is “plain of feature and certainly overweight” could “NEVERTHELESS” be “a woman of wit and warmth”? Is it really so hard to see a woman’s personal characteristics as anything other…

Her kids didn’t write the obit. This was a public obituary for a prestigious scientist who had just died. Find me a similar obit for a male scientist- they don’t exist and the unconscious intention is to both undermine her accomplishments and to assure readers that she was a ‘real woman’ not some humorless ball…

As a former journalist, I can tell you that there is a reason why the first sentence of a story is called the lede (or lead). It’s because that’s where you put the information you consider the most important. That’s where the phrase “burying the lede” comes from—and that’s what this obit does.

No, I don’t think so. Being a homemaker isn’t an easy job, but this woman wasn’t primarily a homemaker. She wasn’t a chef or a cook. She was a scientist. Yet they chose to lead her obituary not with an account of her important scientific contributions, but an account of her famous beef stroganoff.

If you want to be this obtuse, go to town. I won’t stop you. Carry on.

As others have mentioned, you are missing the point EVERY SINGLE TIME!

You just keep letting the point sail over your head, huh?

I think people take umbrage at the fact that for women, reproductive and domestic achievements typically land the lede, while their professional achievements are secondary. This is rarely the case for accomplished men. Their children will be mentioned, naturally, but not as their crowning achievement in life.