The biggest issue here, then, is about bystander intervention. When the statistics are run, these programs might not help rapists but they help bystanders feel empowered to say something and when someone intervenes, it's very likely a rape does not happen.

It's really sad that you care so much about getting what you think you're owed. That's not what weddings are supposed to be about. They're not about raking in the gifts and dough that you think you deserve, they're about family and friends coming together to celebrate something beautiful. If someone can't attend that…

All colleges need to incorporate a primer on enthusiastic consent into their orientation programs. Sit everyone down, separate the boys and girls if people are going to get flustered about it, and plainly teach the following concepts:

Oh that is frustrating! I can't even really call it "my" NYC bash. It's more like "My motherhas been dreaming about this day longer and more intensely that I have and I won't rob her of her moment." If it were up to me, there'd be no NYC bash, but if all I have to do is show up then I won't rob her of this.

I mean as far as being hurt / upset that people decline your wedding invitation yet don't buy you a gift or even a gift card. No one owes you anything.

You seem fairly entitled.

Easy to say, unless you've got a ton of family. Personally I couldn't give two fucks about my extended family, and no way in hell would I pay for them to attend a party of mine. But not inviting them would be considered a huge slap in the face, and I'm pretty sure they'd stop speaking to my mother, which would…

I never said our vacation was ruined. Chill. I live 1000 miles away from my immediate family so I was just looking forward to spending that time with them. And I am happy for him, our neighbor is a close friend and a good guy.

So, I know that some couples are insensitive jerks, and that destination weddings can be a challenge for people who are financially strapped. I get it.

I would like to be clear that a destination wedding is not a place where the bride or groom either of their families live nearby. I'm having my wedding in the Hudson Valley and my whole family is going "Destination wedding!!! Please change it and have it somewhere close to meeeeeee." I live in NYC. My fiance and his…

Another non-bratty reason for having a destination wedding has to do with the fact our families are on different continents. We're holding the wedding in his home country, England, which you may say doesn't quite qualify as a destination wedding since it's home for half the guest list. Eh, no, his side accounts for…

What if you don't want a big wedding but you have 25 fucking first cousins like I do? I am so not looking forward to making my guest list.

I chose Grand Cayman for a lot of reasons, but a big one was that it was a place that my family had vacationed a couple of times, and it was the last place we all went together before my sister died. It reminds me of her when she was happy, not an abused shell of an addict. So if anyone was butthurt about it, I'm…

As a bride to be, I LOVE the idea of the destination wedding for just this reason. I have a huge family and I really don't care if any of them come BUT I HAVE to invite them. But we can't have a destination wedding because my mother refuses to get into an airplane, so New Hope, PA and my family it is.

My bio father's wife told me at our wedding that she was invited to three (3!!) destination weddings next spring. She worked out that they'd spend about $15k to attend these three weddings. She said nope, and came to ours (a six hour drive). People bitched about it. Um...six hour drive and a tank of gas is not…

Corseting in the 1500s smashed the breasts, but didn't do the waist squeezing of the 19th century. And, yes, not all women squeezed into 18 inch waists, it was the fashion and prevalent enough that my grandmother coming of age in the 1910s wanted a corset for her 18th birthday and it was a big deal to her to get her…

Corset wearing was a matter of course off an on going back to the 1500s; that's why we have such a thing as a Tudor-style corset. As for the 19th century accounts of tight-lacing during the Victorian era are highly exaggerated. It happened and there was a fetish around tiny wastes (that produced a lot of erotica that…

It presents quite the double-edged bind, doesn't it?

Her last two sentences were so accurate and so applicable to me (and, probably, to a bunch of us) that they were painful to read. Like, corset levels of painful.

"Maturing is realizing how many things don't require your comment."