Biological clock upgrade!

A good way to snatch items.

Yup. When my boyfriend and I decided to get married, I was like, "Great, OK, so now we're engaged!" and he said, "No! What? I want to propose! With a ring!" A couple of months went by, and I finally pointed out that if we realistically wanted to get married next summer, we needed to be booking stuff. He was…

I love my MIL, but she's a sweetheart who lives across the country. Best relationship ever.

I hate this stereotype of shitting mother in laws— why is it always on the mom? Sometimes dads can be crappy too. Maybe going into those relationships with the stereotypes in our heads makes it manifest.

We just celebrated our 30th. That's not the hard stuff up there. The hard stuff comes later when Bad Things happen that test your commitment to each other in ways you never expected. Health issues, job loss, family issues with parents and loved ones - those are the things that are truly hard and will test your…

"'How could I have married someone who's so bad with money?' 'Why did I marry someone who I can't rely on to attend family functions with me?' 'What possessed me to marry someone who is a habitual nose-picker?!?'"

You seemed to be saying that most girls prefer really buff guys, and only a relative handful prefer leaner ones. I'm pointing out that that isn't exactly true.

I represent the view of them better than you do, Greg Ian Riggs.

"Sorry, but this is a modern sensitive male fantasy that women don't like buff guys."

toned = slightly muscular but still lean. buff = bulky muscles. Chris Hemsworth is definitely pretty buff. No me gusta. Like Monochrome said, it's probably a generational thing. I'm 18 and absolutely prefer leanness. Slight muscle is as far as I'll go. But maybe people over 30 have a different standard of beauty.

No worries. Everybody has messed-up reference points unless they have a multi-regional sample composed of at least 5,000 interviewed individuals across the nation and even then they could miss several points or reference.

Modern sensitive male fantasy? I like that comic because as a female, I find it true. I don't like muscly guys. Being toned is nice, but ugh, buff is too much. And most females I know personally agree, fwiw.

These articles always make me feel like crap but this ones extra. Why dish out false hope like that? I've heard that kinda overly optimistic crap before and no matter how much you believe it all you're doing is telling a kid that santa exists

You're obviously talking about your personal experience, and that's fine. But other's are taking from their experience, and maybe there's something to learn there. You're mistaking personality with specific types of personalities. You do have some interests, hobbies, things you love to do, life experiences, etc, no?…

You took all of that as a magical storybook/movie outcome? Did we read the same article? Because I saw that guy being told that he's got some hard work to do on himself, but that it's ridiculous to give up. I'm sorry that you didn't see that, and that you've given up. That's no way to live.

Just because I prefer outgoing men doesn't mean all women are the same. Everyone is different. Some shy women gravitate to shy men. But honestly you just sound bitter, and nobody gravitates to that.

And filling people with false-self-doubt is equally harmful.

I had similar issues through high school and into college. I was fortunate enough to find a good group of friends who stuck with me and helped me build confidence by encouraging me to break out of my social norms.

I think I can win this.