Because men are supposed to always be DTF.

Everything about this story makes me livid, starting with their wanting to separate a family because "Marsha and I always planned to have five children". These abominations would split up traumatized siblings because it didn't conveniently fit in to their plans. That should have absolutely been a red flag right from…

My abortion was epic but only because Michael Bay performed it.

I am not your sweetie.

He is a hero. Just not to you. Just because you disagree with his message doesn't make him any less of a hero to those who do.

Or, someone who preached violence endlessly....."by any means necessary"

And what? Martin Luther King wasn't the "good" black man who was anti-violence, compared to Malcolm X as a "bad" black man who spoke of change by any means necessary. That's a horribly reductive way to think of either man.

He was assassinated by members of his former sect for reversing course and speaking out against the very beliefs for which you're condemning him, so...

Malcolm X is already a hero. You apparently missed the judgement of history. The too short arc of his life is known. How do you measure up against this standard?

What he was? You mean a man who was probably more readily able to admit his own flaws than either you or I? I can nary think of another historical or political figure who was as capable of nuanced thought or as willing to publicly own up to his past mistakes as Malcolm X.

This is why I love SVU. Sometimes it's nice to enter a fantasy world in which rape kits are actually tested, detectives actually care about and believe the victims, and rapists are actually taken to court and sent to prison.

As a Jezzie: Nope, good article, well reasoned responses. Often we'll object to talk of being "friend-zoned" because it means that the girl in question is being "girlfriend-zoned," which generally indicates an attitude of entitlement etc.

I'm SO MAD that this guy is giving advice so us ladies can stop hearing the "friendzone" bitch from guys! And telling a guy to communicate with his girlfriend to spice up their relationship! That makes me SO—-no, wait, I'm thinking of happy. My mistake.

I'm going to reply to this without rancor and without tiptoeing around the topic because I get that you value directness: Women are also socialized to give a "soft no" because a hard no sometimes gets a hard slap, either emotionally or physically. There's a story on Deadspin right now about a guy who broke his wife's…

as a female, I've taken many different approaches to this. and i find that often times, regardless of my approach, i get the same "whatever, you're a *itch " type answer. last weekend i went dancing with my friends and politely declined the advances of a few guys and got the same nasty looks or back talk. i think…

*sigh* here we go again. Look, in case it isn't obvious (which it isn't, apparently) women ALSO don't say a direct no because there is a very real chance of retaliation. I've been called a bitch, a whore and been screamed at , AND one time was spit on for saying 'No, I don't want to give you my number'

"Too beta" - "wimpy" - "man up" -

As someone who's 5'8" and has dated women 6' or more... being a tall guy is attractive, but it ain't the only thing that's attractive.

Being defensive about not being tall, on the other hand, isn't attractive at all.

Honestly? It's both.

A lot of guys - and to be honest, it's mostly guys - buy into a lot of bullshit when it comes to dating, whether it's the classic "women only like assholes" or the Friend Zone or the idea that women are "the gatekeepers" of sex.

My philosophy when it comes to dating is that you do much better when…

You're probably going to have someone fight you on that "women can control their weight" comment.