If the genders were reversed, and the woman shot the man and then waited AN HOUR before calling the cops?

I'm curious too. Like, what is gained by this? What's wrong with just being mad at the dude for murdering someone?

There is NO way to know that.

Writing a story about a girl being unjustifiably shot in the face is not "deifying" her.

Happens to the best of us.

I am also formerly that person. I learned though that it doesn't save you.

A+

I did click the link, I just still don't understand your statement (tho I was pretty sure you weren't saying what I was getting). That is a great article.

I'm not sure what you mean by your second statement though. You don't think that some people just like to hurt other people? Or am I misreading that?

What I mean is people want to chalk it up to mental illness, which is basically the same "monster" argument - which is ultimately that the offender is not responsible for their actions because they are sick and that we should all be able to recognize monsters and failure to do so falls on the victim.

I actually studied serial offenders (theft, murder, assault, sexual) and these were main points that were driven home when discussing witnesses and how the public and close friends/family all react to news of a crime by someone they know.

There are several things happening with this sort of response and this is why it's so hard to fight, because each person could react the same way for several different reasons.

It would be awesome to be able to respond AND downvote to keep grey...but I'd hate for legit comments to get downvoted for stupid reasons so I see the issue.

I mean, look at these:
Men not touching eachother (sorry I don't know how to link properly):

#1 - the congressman did not pay for his actions. Several people called for him to step down and he refused. He instead checked himself into a one week long rehab and said that should be enough.

I'm telling this story all over the place but here it is again:

Most rapists are not psychopaths. Saying that make it easy to brush off offenders as "broken" so that we don't have to do any work.

While I agree with you for the most part, you are forgetting about the rapists who do not realize/believe what they're doing is rape.

Exactly what I was going to say.

Covering up is "just as easy" as looking away? So, buying a blanket and struggling to keep yourself and your hungry child under it is "just as easy" as someone who is in no way involved with the activity simply looking away?