I hear you and think your perspective is fair. I said I had been raped and so am obviously hearing things through that lens (or whatever the more sensory-appropriate metaphor is there). When you're a hammer, everything's a nail yata yata. But I don’t think it’s “odd” to bring up in this context. It’s just really hard…

“Rape culture...is also something people can (in a consensual, aware way) use as sexual play.”

You should listen to the episode before responding then. It’s a biased response.

Based on this comment and your other, you’re on a mini Dan Savage defense tour. Rather than just dismissing my comment, why don’t you explain *how* you don’t believe it’s what he said so we can have a real discussion?

Yeah...DS is normally great. But sometimes he doesn’t see past his homosexual dude lens. A girl called in saying she thought S&M was violent and she wasn’t sure she was okay with it, philosophically. His answer was just that everyone is different, and that he thought eating pussy was gross so she was allowed to think…

As a gifted but troubled kid with totally neglectful parents, I don’t mock the “didn’t hug me” thing. It matters :/

My mess really doesn’t expand beyond my own space (and I do clean it, it just occasionally gets bonkers). Honestly wouldn’t trash another person’s car.

I genuinely just lol’d.

Haha that’s what I started with and then I realized I couldn’t imagine them as normal humans. They’re freaks!!!

Hahaha yeah I think you would click with them more, too (jk, obviously).

Oh. I see what you meant now.

I guess today is a day for feeling triggered by assumptions about the sexuality of those who don’t conform to gender norms. Seems pretty dangerous/shitty. Is “you’re reading too hard” the new “you’re being over-sensitive?”

Eyes like...she was a tomboy so she must have been gay? C’mon now.

I'm really enjoying all of these hypothetical famous friendship ponderings. Like this is the silliest, girliest thing ever and I kind of love it. (It is a little mean tho!)

Ugh I got my done and Claire's and one of the holes is still so jacked up. I want compensation for this disfigurement!

I hope you have embraced the hair and freckles now : )

Why do I recognize that redhead? I vaguely remember her scratchy voice from somewhere...who is she/what else was she in?

She was? How do you figure?

I mean, good for you?

Right? Things are moving way too fast. It's craaaazy.