Mhm.

It would be interesting to see if that psychology is born out by any kind of research, since it's precisely the opposite of my experience; when I try on clothes that are too big, I get excited because there's a good chance that the store will have a size that *will* fit me. When I try on an XL that's too small/short…

Ah, I see. Kind of like my knowledge of 20th century history (thanks, public high school! Cuban missile what?) Burner accounts are basically just accounts that aren't connected to an email address (so if we lose our passwords, we're screwed). I have a vague impression from comment threads like this one that burners…

Is this true for burners, too? I am so confused by this whole system.

Oh, my god, yes. I'm on OKCupid, and I've started considering "U Chicago grad student" as a giant red flag (for some reason, OKC thinks I should be really into those guys). Even when they're not *actively* saying misogynistic things, they're spending an entire date expounding on Hume and Kant and OH MY GOD CAN WE JUST…

I'm going to respond here to your response to me, because I think your last sentences ("On the abstract, lofty, philosophical level egalitarianism over feminism for sure. On the pragmatic political level feminism over egalitarianism") suggest very clearly the way I think about the world. I *believe in* egalitarianism…

I think you might have taken my comments in a way I absolutely did not mean. Sometimes, having discussions with people who disagree with you *does* take a lot of patience, because it takes more time to think through their ideas as well as your ideas and how you're expressing them. Also, as someone who calls myself a…

Some days I'm patient, and some days I'm a walking troll hammer. He happened to catch me on a patient day :-)

Fair enough; it's a complicated issue. And it sounds like (based on your response to HermioneStranger) that you've encountered some feminists with whom you had less-than-positive interactions and who didn't seem to really affirm your experience, and I totally get how that sort of thing would make you hesitant to get…

I did. He's someone with whom I disagree on a number of issues, but I found this discussion interesting and worthwhile. I think it's useful to understand people's objections to feminism, a concept that's very important to me, and I appreciated the chance to articulate my own thoughts on the issue, which required me to…

"What type of energy do you have in the morning? What task is that energy best suited for?"

I knew a lot of these at my college. They were mostly art majors (one told me, when I asked her how she chose her major, that she "wanted to have a hobby for after she got married") and were heavily involved in campus ministries.

You're welcome, and likewise :-)

I think that makes sense. And I know feminism has a history of being exclusionary on a number of levels (it has traditionally been a very white, middle class kind of thing, which is very Not Okay and something that still needs to be addressed in many ways). But I think that what you term exclusion (based on the "fem"…

I don't think feminism is *necessarily* exclusionary; I think if it's going to do any good at all, it has to be intersectional and work to improve conditions for all sorts of underprivileged groups. Then again, I also think men can be and identify as feminists (although I certainly wouldn't say they *have* to, because…

I love Toni Collette and what she's saying here, but I feel like I'm the only woman in the world who hated Muriel's Wedding. Like, I got a little more than halfway through, and I just couldn't bring myself to bother with the rest. Just not my jam.

Do you mean you don't know if there is a place/role for you in feminism (so you don't know if identifying yourself that way is appropriate/appropriative), or you don't know whether feminism offers you anything? Or that the movement is missing something or flawed in some way that makes you not want to identify with it?

*Sigh* Fine, it wasn't the best wording. How does "to have her sacrifice the rest of her life to look after..." sound?*

You're welcome!

You've got some GORGEOUS earrings (and I love that you have clip-ons!).