So, weird question, but has anyone else ever had a painful orgasm? I recently started having an issue where, after the initial pleasure of orgasm, I get pretty intense pain in my pelvis. It feels like the worst menstrual cramp ever and ruins the whole experience. I’d say it happens about 80% of the time.

I can sympathize with a lot of aspects of your situation: I struggle to establish boundaries with my family, and certain members of my family are good at constantly framing themselves as the victim. The only advice I can give is to trust that there is nothing wrong with asserting yourself, and if your parents don’t…

Do you like Toastmasters? I’ve been thinking about joining. I’m a decent public speaker but could be more polished. I’d like to get more involved with some of the nonprofits I support, particularly in a leadership capacity, so I would like to get really good at it.

No but I’ve thought about trying the Neutrogena one

Looking for some apartment searching advice. My boyfriend and I want to move to a one bedroom apartment alone, we currently live in a 2 bedroom with a roommate. We live in the Edgewater neighborhood in Chicago and want to stay somewhat in that area. My biggest concern is that I want to be sure that I’ve seen as many…

Parental guilt trips are a monumental mind fuck, and it sucks so hard that your folks use them on you. It’s not fair, and it sounds like they feel like they have the right to exploit you because you’re their child. It’s an awful place to be in, because they’re your parents and of course you love them, but you also…

The issue of course is your parents, but the issue is also how capable you feel about setting boundaries. (I have had this issue before in life, but had help in therapy to learn to set boundaries and not care if people reacted poorly to them.) You can’t control what your parents do, but you can control the boundaries…

I’m watching a special on nbc called hope&fury: mlk, the movement and the media. It’s really good.

Get on an HRT plan (hormone replacement therapy). It works. When your estrogen drops, you get hot flashes. Transdermal patches are where it’s at for estrodial replacement. You put a patch either over your ovary on your front or your back. It doesn’t go through your liver. Completely bio-identical and completely safe.

I’m going to read your post ten times again tomorrow. Thank you so much much for saying that! #tearyeyed

For your own sake, I would encourage you to talk about some of your feelings and more recent realizations about your feelings/family/how this has affected you over your life with a professional. Even in your post, there is clearly a lot to unpack in terms of how you feel about yourself, your appearance, and your…

Move on, honey. Move on fast and don’t look back. You have friends here. Get away from this toxic mess of a relationship and soon enough things won’t be looking quite so bleak.

Beauty Thread! I know I’m late and also gray so this probably won’t get a ton of traffic, but fuck it. Has anyone tried LED light therapy? I’m thinking about getting a straight up lightbulb to try it out. It’s $35 including a clip on holder for ease of use. Compare that to panels that are hundreds of dollars or even…

Hey your cats are snuggly and adorable and I wish I were curled up with them right now. I am wondering if there is a fancy medical term for what you had done though since I just googled “superheated nerves” and nothing came up. Fellow chronic neck pain sufferer here. Wondering if this could help...

Hi everyone, I posted or replied a few months ago about how I lost a bunch of weight a couple years ago but then my depression hit me and gained it all back. I’m trying again now and its going mostly well with a couple minor slip ups. The problem is I tried at this time last year but then my parents came to stay with…

After three and a half years of non-stop chronic neck pain, I finally achieved a partial solution when some of my nerves were superheated, effectively deadening them. Unfortunately, the main problem spot remains. But this was definitely a step in the right direction.

Bonsoir Jezzers. I hope you’re having a better weekend than I am. Papi Prefect is back in hospital once again, this time because the doctors suspect there’s something awry with his gall bladder which is unrelated to the kidney transplant. He’s having a nuclear scan this afternoon. In the meantime he’s back on the…

We’re part-way through the annual National Network of Abortion Funds donor drive! Won’t you please help a sister out and support my fundraiser? Money goes to ARC Southeast and people who need abortions in Georgia but are unable to access them safely because of all sorts of financial difficulties. It only takes a…

I like this hair, and I’m 50. Might be my next logical step after my current blond.