Hey, how about not trotting out “sex-negative” in a post where someone in BDSM raped a woman despite her use of safewords, huh? Maybe realize that “sex-negative” is the new way to say “frigid” and stop using it, because the idea that we can’t discuss how damaging certain aspects of sex can be to women is horseshit.

Yeah, I mean ... it was weird. She was a very articulate girl who could describe precisely what she wanted but it still made me incredibly uncomfortable - and probably had a fair amount to undoing of our relationship. I was like ... yeah, I totally dig you and totally love banging you but I don’t really have that in…

Except women having rape fantasies is a thing completely outside a man’s choice to repeatedly simulate rape. Given the prevalance of rape and abuse - primarily of women - in sex work, porn, and BDSM, it’s relevant and valid to question the motivations of the men who choose to participate in them repeatedly and…

There’s nothing un-feminist about rape fantasies and I’m totally pro-kink, but I have trouble endorsing them as positive sexual outlets when they’re from the point of view of the rapist. Most porn is shot for men, marketed to men, including the videos to which I’m referring.

I’m not into visual porn; smutty writing does it for me. But enough people raved about him that I gave it a try, once. He spat in the woman’s face and simulated raping her - no thanks. Not into guys who even pretend to enjoy that shit, and if that makes me not sex-positive, I can live with that.

And that would be applicable if I were talking about videos simulating consensual BDSM. I’m an advocate for sex positivity and have several amateur kink and pro domme friends; I am able to make the distinction.

Virginia has a revenue-sharing license plate. In the alphabetical list, it’s listed as “Trust Women.”

I’ll never be noticed because NO ONE IS IN LOVE WITH ME. I wonder what people THINK ABOUT ME? What do I MEAN TO OTHERS?

Here’s how Soda explained her project,...

Uh, this is an ostensibly feminist website devoted to discussing ways that gender norms, expectations, and standards can hurt women collectively. Were you not aware of that? Why SHOULDN’T it be discussed?

They are differently worded statements about an orange from someone who is trying to downplay unpleasant side effects from a practice that she enjoys?

But that commenter clarified: “Perhaps I’m wrong, but when you prop them up, you transfer part of their support function onto the mechanical wrap itself.” They weren’t under the impression that the muscles were going totally and completely unused. It’s just faster and easier to say “your unused muscles” than “the…

Yeah... at a bare minimum, I think “I was feeling really lonely and isolated, so I started doing something pretty extreme to change my body shape!” probably warrants a follow-up question or two.

I also know people who have been there, and some of the things they’ve reported over social media have been later refuted by other media reports. MPR is reporting that there were rumors about the shootings going around the protests (that the shooters were cops) and going up on social media that were not corroborated.…

While I agree that the shooting is terrible, I admit I’m a little skeptical about reports of macing or those kinds of comments. It’s just a little too convenient and easily villainous; I mean, really, a cop is going to pause while setting up an active perimeter, possibly directing EMTs and emergency services, to make…

I think it's been since the invention of the spare bedroom that people have been trying to have sex with their lodgers. Pretty sure there's a ton of Victorian novels about that.

Local here. About a week ago,there was another incident during the protest in which several men showed up with guns, and posted multiple political rants online. I think security at the protest after that incident was tightened, which is probably why these men were fingered for being suspicious.

I am neutral on the…

Perhaps you misunderstood what I said. I said we need to keep saying this is not what Americans do. We need to keep saying it’s unAmerican. That’s the narrative we need to push here.

TEAM ‘JAY DID IT’

It’s almost as if refusing to protect trans people didn’t stop straight men from going into womens’ restrooms to assault children there.