The best thing that was done to me after a loss was when I finally went back to class and saw my friend, and she just said “Come here” and gave me a hug. It was much more comforting than anything anyone else said to me.

For the first writer: I highly recommend reading “Why Does He Do That? Inside The Minds Of Angry And Controlling Men”. You can find a free pdf around the web. If you don’t have time, at least read Chapter 9, it covers escape plans. I know you don’t think he’s abusive right now, but there’s a checklist for early…

No, no, no, STOP. I know you guys mean well but therapy does not fix an abuser! From people working in the abuser rehabilitation field, therapy only makes an abuser more powerful. Therapy fixes anger issues, sure, but we aren’t talking about anger issues alone, we’re talking about abuse. Couples therapy is an even…

I’d like to see an article like this, but for friends who aren’t parents. I’m not planning on being a parent anytime soon, if ever, but I would like to know the best ways to support friends who are parents.

Do NOT stand at the walking side. What the hell is your problem? Some people are late.

I’m not sure but I don’t think the people were particularly tasty...

Some people actually do react the same way to pictures of vacations. It's a strange world.

Then what reply do you expect when you tell someone why you’re upset?

At least for me, “I know how you feel” can be comforting, as long as it’s true (the person actually did go through the same thing as me). “Wanna *insert distraction*” feels like you think my pain is uncomfortable for you and want to change the subject as soon as possible.

What do you mean who said anything about every single tweet? The article did. Multiple times.

LOL, even if you decide not to break up with him, there are parts of your trust he shouldn’t be able to regain. At the very least, never send him any more pics and change all your passwords. He might have a second chance in the relationship, but he doesn’t get a second chance to do the same thing all over again.

First of all, no one is stupid enough to send pics to someone they don’t trust. So no, it’s not about knowing the person and their character, because after dating someone for five years you’d think you knew that person, and yet revenge porn from long-standing relationships is way too common.

I imagine it’s a bit harder to actually have sex when you know the whole world will find out in a few hours, so celebrities might have to rely on sexting a lot more than others. So they might be a bit skewed towards sending pics if they know they aren’t seeing that body anytime soon otherwise.

My mother always calmly replied with “I know you don’t”. It never really changed anything, but the logic there was that if she died while I was still young, I wouldn’t feel guilty my whole life assuming she died thinking I hated her.

Speaking from experience, “I need to take a break from dating” / “I’m actually not ready for dating” doesn’t work. They don’t take it as a “no”, they take it as a “maybe later”. Even ghosting is more effective than that.

Honestly it sounds to me like you’re the one on a power trip. She wasn’t asking you for your address, how hard is it to give a birthday date? Especially since she could (very low chance but it IS a chance) get in trouble for overriding it, while you stand to lose absolutely nothing by telling her your birthday (or…

Are you... doing this on purpose? Because “irregardless” isn’t a word...

But the man is having an affair, has absolutely no intention to stop it, and even said he’s in love with the other woman. I don’t think there’s much to work out at this point. The way the letter is written, it’s clear he would pick the affair over the marriage (he mentions divorce as something he has considered, but…

... If you’ve talked to your wife about this and she’s ok with it, it’s not an affair. It has nothing to do with an affair. It’s an open relationship. Affairs, by definition, don’t involve any consent at all.

Even if they get through the divorce without her finding out, people aren’t stupid. She’ll find out as soon as they’re officially over and he’s dating some girl the very next second. It doesn’t take a genius to realize the girl was the reason for the divorce.