Northern Ireland, you say?  Belfast?  Will you be choosing any of the spots featured in the Telegraph's "In Pictures: Nightlife" section?

My two cents' worth—do as much texting/messaging as possible before you meet so you already have plenty of things to talk about/refer to.  Makes it seem less awkward the more you know about the other person.  Also can reveal potential red flags.  Have him send another pic to see if it matches the one on the site, and…

@Dikachu:disqus  Very eloquently put.

@avclub-011d0b4fe6835bb3d37ef4e0ea713de6:disqus   Haaaaaaa!!!!

I reacted poorly to a woman I'd met on a dating site who (eventually) disclosed she had HPV.  We'd messaged and talked a few times long-distance, and I liked a lot about her; so she made plans to book a hotel room in the area, and it wasn't until the day before she was to come (!) that she told me about it.

@avclub-011d0b4fe6835bb3d37ef4e0ea713de6:disqus  Sad to admit, we used to call it that in college.  It was a stoner thing, I guess, back in the 80s.  I will write "za" on my shopping list, though, because who else is going to read it?  And yes, I would let you slap me if you ever heard me say that.

@avclub-011d0b4fe6835bb3d37ef4e0ea713de6:disqus  I know.  It made me feel pretty uneasy, like maybe I wasn't supposed to be seeing it, even though it was happening RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME.  I want to think the other women were turning to their husbands/boyfriends and saying, "If you EVER do that to me in public, so help…

Now THERE'S a show I would watch:

Excellent distinction, @Dikachu:disqus  and I'd be interested to see the commentariat here weigh in on your question.

Ha!  @avclub-94d8526a5fae933806f65b8a0f49301a:disqus  — Wasn't it Worf who said to Riker once on the holodeck something like, "If it isn't about winning, Commander, then why keep score?"

Strangely, I feel hypersensitive these days to my state of singleness, and crave a nice relationship more than ever—even in this late summer heatwave.  I fully realize I'm much less attractive with sweat pouring down my face, but that hasn't stopped me from wanting to make women smile.  And who knows; one of them…

A guy on our softball team years ago used to do that to his wife back at the bar.  He was really kind of a dick and I always took that as him saying "look what I get to do".  She'd slap him, and he always laughed it off.  I wasn't surprised to find out years later that she was divorcing him.

Are you calling our Dik an idiot?  You, sir, have overstepped your bounds.  Dan may have been giving spot on advice, but the fact you don't remember when he's said things like that about his partner means (a) you haven't been reading his column all that closely, or (b) your memory is faulty.

*Buys @avclub-64ad8f3af92ef8d9a1c7dfd7265e577d:disqus and @avclub-1343022fc4003e2cf16f0368302d86e8:disqus  a beer; nods silently*

More than one of the women I met through dating websites admitted they—and many others—looked at it as something of a game.  They were amazed that I used a picture that was clear and looked just like me, and that I would put so much information in the bio.  Their point was that, the less information you have out…

I think @Dikachu:disqus nailed it here.  Life is too short for you to dread the next four months.  Talk to him now.  I've been in his shoes, and I've never liked it, but it is so much better—for everyone (families included)—to get it out there.  If the arrangement truly isn't working, you do want to have the chance to…

#1:  That IS an inspirational story.  To answer your question, no.

Hey @Dikachu:disqus , I'm glad to see you back here.

Yeah, I can't spot the fake either.  But, "full sail?"  Who writes her material?

(heh heh … @avclub-f9c2801a33e8b736477d9b364dab1130:disqus said "stiff" ….)