I'm kind of reading a book about German collective guilt right now!

In these dark days of Trump and Kinja, I'm glad we all still have O'Neal.

He is determined to get us all killed.

This isn't about fear. This is about my willingness to spend part of my life trying to change the minds of people who think less of me for my sexuality. There are many good reasons why myself and other queer people aren't willing to spend our time on that. Again, we are not walking life lessons for the benefit of…

THANK YOU! I've had mixed experience from engaging with bigots, obviously: in some cases, yes, their minds have been changed. In other cases, I've gotten physically assaulted. No matter what my experience is, or any other queer person's, we are NEVER required to be a life lesson to homophobes. We aren't here to…

Wow. Great support for what your fellow queer people go through.

Oh god. I somehow missed this one.

Oooh, good point.

I'm glad women like that exist! Again, sincerely. I just have no interest in being one of them.

I was just thinking about you when I listened to the end of Rose Buddies. I'm kind of happy about the change.

Thanks for understanding, seriously.

You know what? I still get aches from three broken ribs due to homophobic dudes beating me up in high school. It took my mother and I years to recover our relationship after she kicked me out for coming out, after which I was briefly homeless, and after I lost my entire religious community. For coming out. So maybe…

But that's the thing: I wouldn't let them get to know me if I had any knowledge at all of their mild homophobia. I'd cut them off immediately at that point. It is not worth it to me.

Don't pull that condescending shit with me dude. Seriously.

It's the AV Club. We click and comment about everything here.

That's a great GENERAL point, but it doesn't mean it has to work for individual people. I am well within my rights to write up homophobic people because they directly harm me.

You can think that if you want, but as a queer person I get to decide that it's not my personal job to fix homophobes. I'd rather spend time with people who are already evolved.

I'd stop if some men stopped being so terrible in the same slightly different yet rote kind of way.

I am happy to be here to lambaste creeps. I don't know why you thought I'd be bothered by this comment.

I understand that, and I get that people have had stories like yours with your mom. I just have no personal interest in those stories in MY life. I'm really glad your mom came around, sincerely. I personally have no time for people who are even mildly homophobic.