But...weddings are boring*. I’d much rather be invited to a theme party than a stuffy church to hear 1st Corinthians again or whatever it is.

Suggesting a costumed affair does not necessarily mean demanding a costumed affair. Most weddings have a few guests not dressed the way the invite intended, and most people have the manners not to make an issue of it. You can have a Stranger Things wedding for those who enjoy the concept and still welcome those who…

Also people are using this comment section to be pretty nasty about people they don’t think are dressing to their own personal standards. Apparently it hasn’t occurred to some commenters that not everyone has the money to run out to buy a formal occasion dress at the drop of a hat.

Everyone (especially my MIL) would ask me what our “theme” was or our color scheme, and I said it was “Everything Look Nice.”

Extremely same. I’ve been married for just over 18 months and neither my wife nor I wanted a huge affair — just a fun time for us and our friends.

I was engaged for a while and spent most of it trying to convince my fiance to elope. We split up instead, thank god, but I still can’t believe anyone can be arsed to plan a wedding. My sister is doing at the moment and it seems like a royal pain.

My mother’s third marriage was a bit like that. City Hall ceremony on a Tuesday around midday, followed by a lavish long lunch with a dozen friends and family. Probably ended up spending as much on the meal and champagne as most people do for a 100 person wedding, but it was definitely zero stress.

 what you don’t realize is that I’m seriously considering this plan!!

That would be amazing. But also tacos? Choco tacos! OMG YOUR WEDDING COULD HAVE CHOCO TACOS.

Weddings end up being about everyone else. I’m so happy to keep it simple and intimate.

Sounds excellent. I’m astonished the number of people who come up and tell me all the things I MUST do is astounding. I MUST do that? really?

I was probably too minimalist, truthfully. There will also be ice cream.

I’m secretly planning a mini wedding. The second anyone has an inclination that I’m getting engaged, it becomes a laundry list of must-dos. After 3 decisions, my head starts to hurt.

‘I don’t know, self uniting marriage certificate and a fuck ton of gin?’

Well not everybody’s as smart as you are, Marillenbaum.

It is life, and I’m saying that the person who is deciding whether or not to go to a stupid themed wedding will have to weigh the potential repercussions. Sometimes, those potential repercussions (argument with the family; strained work environment; whatever the case may be) will make the person decide “fuck it, I’ll…

God same

Also, weddings already have a theme! You know what it is? Marriage. Boom. Done and dusted.

You know what’s a better time than both costume weddings and black tie weddings? Staying home and not going to either. Just the idea of refusing to attend a party gives me a little thrill, actually.

I mean, “just don’t go to the wedding” is not always such a simple option. What if it’s a cousin? What if it is your boss? Your good friend? Your husband’s best friend? Now you have to balance their lack of being reasonable with the repercussions in your life.