Oh my goodness, this! I'm 40 now and I noticed this change in my own life. When I was much younger (teens and early 20's) telling a guy that I had a boyfriend often worked for me. Not anymore. Now they say something like "Well, he ain't here now is he?" or "What's that got to do with me?" The last time it was "That's…

That's true, but I think we can agree that for a black child, living in a place where she is not the only POC is a far better deal.

This went into effect 2 years ago in San Francisco. It's a nice idea until the rainy season rolls around. Then you have to schlep groceries in paper bags in pouring rain. That is, if you do the unforgiveable and forget to bring enough resusable ones.

As a shelter volunteer (although not someone who gets to do the naming) a lot of kittens and cats come through. Kitten season is just winding down, so the vet techs (who do the naming) have to come up with a lot of names. Usually they go with themes for litters. We had a mother come in with her six kittens, so the…

No, I was raised by my (black) parents, thanks. I think the person with issues here is you. You're giving this way more attention than it deserves.

1) I don't follow Robert Pattinson's love life. A while back I read (on dlisted I'm going to guess) that he was dating someone named FMK Twigs. I didn't care enough to look up who that person was.

The hell? I'm black and *I* thought she was white until I read this article. Does that make me racist and ignorant? Well, ignorant about Robert Pattinsons' private life maybe. But I don't think that's a bad thing.

I've been living in San Francisco for nearly 9 years and your comment is the first time I've heard Antioch referred to as "the yock." Who have you heard calling it that? Young people (under 25)? All ages? Any distinction as to race? I'm really curious.

Hmm. Does "Women (or men, probably) don't want to date someone old enough to be their parents" count as a good damn reason? Because that's usually true.

"What does "age" mean? Activity level and diet affects you much more than age. I'm in a lot better shape than most 25 year olds."

Kim K made one tape that she avoids talking about, preferring to instead say a lot of other vapid stuff. (As far as I can tell). This girl has made I don't know how many videos and keeps yammering about how it's empowering, etc. It's a 1 time occurrence vs. ongoing actions.

You might try one of those wet Swiffers. Downthread, someone suggested the Mr. Clean Magic Eraser, which is also a good idea—those things are amazing.

"No need for me to inspire them, I guess."

I can't imagine why she's single—I mean, she has a *graduate degree* (eyeroll).

"it was always a major turn off when the list of "don't message me if" dragged on and on. I'd read some profiles that in which the "don't bother if " part was the longest and most detailed part of the profile!"

"And my pregnancy is no big deal to the staff at Reproductive Medicine Associates of New York, which regularly treats women over 50."

That really was unkind. Not everyone has a backyard to bury their pets in when they die. That doesn't mean they treated their pet like "garbage" in choosing to cremate them.

I feel you. I tried okcupid last year. As a fat, black nearly 40 year old woman, it was...depressing. The feeling of invisibility (except to men who were disgusting and rude) was awful. Then in October I met the guy I'm going out with now—not on okcupid. Incredibly, he 1)is around my age (he's two years younger, big…

Earplugs. Always, always bring earplugs because you don't know what will happen. Standard in my carry on bag (along with cut up vegetables/dip, sandwich, a piece of fruit, notebook, things to read, ipod, Clorox wipes for the tray table/arm rests, hand wipes ) Yes, I always pack as though I'm going on an arctic…

People can mock you all they like; I'm on the same bench. Should I ever want a diamond ring, the diamond will be one of those created in a lab.