"It makes me sad to hear you say those things about yourself. You're beautiful. I wish you could see yourself the way I see you."

i would predict unhealthy guys are far less likely to go to the doctor...no visit...no shame

Lena please conform. Conform already!!!

So this is my uni and one of my departments was involved with this. I have never been more proud. We desperately need more monkey studies because monkeys.

Uh, did you not read about how I have zero self esteem and I was a rather large person for most of my life? I've also been asked out on a date as a joke, twice.

Because by then you know how fucked-up people really are?

Then I don't see why not being loved for her personality is a problem that she has to deal with to any greater extent than me and everyone else. The factor where we differ is that she is wanted, while I am not.

It was always a given in my mind that I am as good as anyone else. That is the problem. I can't be happy with having some nice things in my life as long as I am a lonely and unattractive, relative to the majority of people around me.

Well, I am writing here because I find some solace in discussing the things I am sad about. I think it's a bit hurtful when you call that whining, but I guess you're kinda right.

I have average confidence. I'm not a shy person, I can talk to anyone, really. When it comes to work, friendships, etc, I'm great. When it comes to dating, I'm awful. I know I'm not ugly. I've been told several times that I am pretty. But my problem is that I used to be 160 pounds heavier and I size 22/24 and now I'm…

I just don't think people care less about your personality if you are attractive. I think being attractive makes people more open to like all aspects of your personage. That is what I have seen in my life. (Perhaps they are pretending, in order to get laid, but still.) An ugly guy who is depressed will often be seen…

Before I became a depressed wreck I had great self-esteem and spoke my mind. That just made me a nerd, a weirdo. Someone good looking doing the exact same as me would have gotten a positive label. Someone good looking with my shitty self-esteem would probably be "mysterious" and "sensitive". I mean if a good looking…

I realize this is probably the Deadspin community's cup of tea, but there's a really easy place to make adult friends: church.

If there are people in this world who care about personality, they will probably be willing to date her, because even those people are human thus they probably won't be able to turn down someone who is physically attractive. I don't have the option to date anyone at all. No one is interested in getting to know me…

I can't get myself to believe that self-esteem is the problem, in other words that this is just in my head.

Being annoyed by too many people you're not interested in hitting on you is not in the same league of pain as not having anyone want you. I don't think that is a grass-is-greener situation. I agree about confidence, but I don't think my problem is confidence, I think my problem is loneliness.

Religious figures notwithstanding, who's the most famous person ever? I think Hitler.

I hope I won't seem like a tasteless asshole, I really don't mean to be. If this comment is dumb, let me know: