i am single (though the lonely part is arguable; i am independent and enjoy time to myself)—but i guess i don’t count because it’s supposedly easier for me to get in a relationship because i am female.

thanks for the heads up—i will not waste any more of my time trying to reason with the unreasonable.

If this is the guy I think it is, you’re wasting your time. Writing hundreds of thousands of words about how easy it is to be female and how hard it is to be male is his raison d’etre. Usually with a generous side of racism.

also, women are expected to do the majority of the emotional labour in romantic/family relationships. if you don’t know what emotional labour is, check out this thread that explains it really well with many personal examples to illustrate:

nope, women are expected to be the social glue in groups, especially family groups—we are expected to arrange everything and accomodate other people’s feelings at all times. and i don’t have to “think about” my male counterparts—i talk to autistic men online all the time, and most of them can see how being socially…

as a woman who is pushing 40 and is socially awkward due to autism, men and women both are NOT more understanding with socially awkward women. socially awkward men are more acceptable because it’s expected that women are supposed to be more socially fluent and aware of and tending to everyone’s emotional needs and…

It’s a good reason she has trust issues. The last time a man flirted with her it was on a dare to try and take her virginity, and she found out about it. I don’t blame her for mistrusting Tormund. Seriously they could do an entire series about Brienne and Tormund and I would watch the fuck out of it. I squee at the…

That’s because women with those sort of challenges have usually seen their parents illustrate “love” in the same. They then try to emulate those relationships and push away guys who don’t fit that model.

They. Were. Children.

Ya’ll act like she was 25 mocking adult men who carry groceries.

That’s true, but the way I am is certainly seen as a challenging woman mostly because of my rigidity. How can I take stands that most men won’t find attractive and NOT bend them to make room for Man Opinions?! Because that’s the way you get a man.
I would never mock someone for being helpful, and I’m usually the first…

It’s not something I’d actually do...but you bring up an interesting thought about them drawing their gun first. This is my vigilante fantasy but the reality is that in order for them to get the jump on me with their gun, they would have had to train harder than I had as a police officer. Kinda doubtful if we’re…

Heh, this is exactly perfect. *SPOILERS*

Right? I am all for poking boners playfully! I WILL POKE ALL THE BONERS PLAYFULLY! (when I have permission to be that playful, of course, I am not just going around town with binoculars looking for boners to poke...YET.)

That’s kind of how I feel about the American South. Like, my northern state likes to act like it’s such a utopia of racial tolerance, because we can all say “Well at least we’re not the south.” But the large number of confederate flags I find in Minnesota make that questionable.

Yes, it seems like a bus route would begin to address the issue (not any of the larger issues like poverty, violence against women, indigenous rights and disenfranchisement). Simply make a safer way for indigenous women to travel is an easy start.

Do they get a rep as a non-racist utopia? I grew up in the American south, but lived a few years outside Toronto as a teen.

I remember watching a CBC program about this years ago (Fifth Estate maybe?), and one of the lead detectives talked about looking into all the vehicles in BC and Washington state that had had the handles removed from the inside of doors, and there was some incredible amount of men they investigated who were cleared -…

As a man who was raised predominantly by women, and was taught to open doors/help with the chores/be polite and kind/cook/clean/etc., you’d be surprised how incredibly common it is for people (men and women) to mock you for helping them.

Other girls we knew let their boyfriends open car doors, pay for things. They liked to feel safe. We, on the other hand, liked to fuck with men, and also with each other, heckling each other’s boyfriends and thwarting each other’s attempts at romance for kicks.

I know, I KNOW we have massive race problems in America. But I feel like because of that, Canada gets seen as this non-racist utopia, especially by my white Canadian friends. And it allows them to sweep this shit under the rug, because hey, at least they aren’t America. But this makes me so mad, and feel so helpless,…