I get what you’re saying and I understand that the black experience in America is incredibly historically unique and black people have no responsibility to speak for other minorities—but as a non-black, non-white person, I’ve always found it really alienating when race is talked about that way. It kind of makes it so…

Wow, you’re like literally playing the Oppression Olympics. I haven’t seen anyone do it this explicitly in a while.

I mean, “Chinese people” aren’t a monolith.

The same way Bush won even though no one you knew voted for him. There are lots of people in this country who are not like you.

What are the three movies? I don’t think I’ve seen most of the movies nominated.

I think the reason this is the show that inspires so much nostalgia is that it was rerun relentlessly for literally decades, so many generations have nostalgia for it. The market for this ranges from like 15-year olds to 45-year olds, whereas as someone born in the early 90s, I’d never even heard of Small Wonders.

I’m mid-20s and watched tons of Full House as a child and teen, through after school ABC Family reruns (and I think I caught a few of the original run episodes as a young child). I have younger friends and nephews/nieces who are nostalgic about it too. It gained a whole new fanbase in the 2000s with Nick at Nite and…

That is fucking awful. I get the sense from all those old tweets from him (a lot of DV jokes, anti-Semitic and misogynistic jokes) that he’s not a very empathetic person and that his sense of humor is very bro-ish and callous.

The idea that “women need to take care of each other because no one else will” completely takes all the heat, all the responsibility away from men, though. It’s a way of assigning disproportionate blame to women for social problems and crimes mostly perpetuated by men. If we don’t expect men to care about us or ever…

Yeah, I’m a woman of color and I think framing this as a competition for who gets to be chosen by hot white guys is missing the point about as much as it’s possible to.

When no one finds your joke funny, it’s probably because it’s dumb

Maybe she doesn’t want to bone him. She should probably have a little say in the matter.

I really like this whole concept of blaming a man’s assholish behavior and immaturity entirely on his wife. After all, he’s “vulnerable.” Nothing he does can possibly be his own fault.

The whole public mourning around Bowie actually made me think of Michael Jackson’s death. The difference of course is that the allegations around him were much, much more well-known. But yeah, there was a period of a few months or years when it was bad taste to bring up the Jackson allegations because once someone…

Were they really? Maybe this is more of a location thing. Because I was alive in 1997 and times were really not that different.

Yeah, but at the same time, there are women who are violently raped by their husbands or boyfriends who refuse to consider it rape for understandable emotional or psychological reasons. Should we deny that what happened to them is rape, just because they don’t believe it is? Rape and sexual coercion aren’t purely…

We can encourage women to tell their own stories and label their own experiences, while unequivocally condemning grown men who think it appropriate to sleep with children, whether or not they are “outliers.”

I think it’s going to be interesting to see the public reaction to this kind of stuff as more of the generation of legendary 1970s rockers dies out. People like Iggy Pop and Jimmy Page and Steven Tyler were way more coercive and creepy in a well-documented way with girls younger than 15 than Bowie was—and they were…

I’m 25 and discovered Bowie as a teenager because my older brother, who was alive in the 80s, liked Labyrinth. I listened to and very much enjoyed his music after being introduced to him in that way. I don’t think I would have known who he was otherwise, except in a very vague cultural osmosis way.

I just wish that we didn’t perceive feminism as a performance and that it wasn’t a thing we scrutinized female celebrities and famous women generally for performing or not performing correctly. Because it becomes yet another standard that women are held to that men are not. It’s tiring. Why can’t feminism just be a…