This case was messed up. I remember that there were some people who blamed the mom because she worked outside the home.

Incidentally, in the state of New York you have to sign a paper promising you won’t shake your baby before you leave the hospital. It’s good, because it’s part of a larger program to educate parents that shaking a baby can be harmful or deadly, and simple advice to help parents calm themselves down to keep them and…

Reminds me of the series of SIDS-related murder convictions of mothers in the 1990s that were eventually reversed because they were based on Roy Meadow’s shoddy math and science as opposed to actual evidence. Except for those convictions that weren’t reversed because the mothers died in jail.

Yes, I get that as a Dominican Latina myself. So fist bump, I know that feels...

As a 30 year-old woman with no children, and no desire to have them in the future and I frequently have people who don’t know me or anything about me “educating” me about basic human reproductive biology. I know my eggs are going bad, did it ever occur to you that I don’t give a shit!? Also the all-too-common “but…

Thanks! I appreciate what you’ve said. I’m a 30 year old career girl and currently have no desires or plans to have children. Unfortunately I had to get married first to discover I didn’t want children which was very unfair to my husband because prior we were on the same page with wanting them eventually (divorced…

When people get down on someone else’s life choices, it’s almost always out of their own insecurities.

But whether or not she wants kids, and whether or not it’s a valid point - do you really think she doesn’t know that her fertility decreases with age? 99.9% of women making these comments aren’t concerned, they just want to taunt someone by telling them they might get ‘punished’ for their choices.

As a pocha in her early 40s who chose travel and work over babies, I cannot hit the star button 10,000 times, although I’d like to. Unfortunately, along with this pious concern for the state of your reproductive organs occasionally comes a barely concealed seething resentment: how dare you be so frivolous as to have…

But do you really think women don’t know that? Do you really think these women are telling Maytonilla anything she doesn’t know? But for some reason, they feel the need to tell Mayotonilla she’ll regret not making the same choices as they did. I’m child free and have a career and I don’t feel any kind of need to tell…

Firstly, well done on everything you’ve achieved. A career and financial security is no small feat these days.

Whatever makes you or them think I do not know that? Don’t you think a career woman in her 30s is knowledgable on the things she wants? This attitude is part of what bothers me. I don’t go around telling women who were teenage moms that they need to talk to their kids about contraception because their kids are more…

My two cents: being a 30 something woman with a career, money and no kids in the Mexican-American community is very hard. Most women my age have kids, some of them have teenagers, one has grandchildren. They can’t stop themselves from telling me that I’ll probably won’t be able to get pregnant and if I do my body…

And there’s also the issue of our professional world being set up in such a way that it makes it near impossible for a woman to have kids and not haver her career take a hit (which is not the case for men).

I think what she meant is that women are shamed for having kids when they’re older, so “barrenness” is treated as punishment for not settling down when they were younger, ie. “you didn’t have a kid when you were 22, so now you’re not allowed.” Less literal infertility and more societal pressure to not have children…

Me too. I can’t imagine even 20-something me being a mom. I would have been terrible at it. I would be much better at it now, though I no longer want to be one. And I can say without exception that my friends and family who waited at least until 30+ are just better at handling the responsibility and stress of…

I think if you take the sentences before and after into account, she’s not saying that’s what she actually believes, but rather that’s what she feels other people (see: society) project onto her and other women who choose to have or try to have children later in life.

No, she’s a witch, and she’s in the same coven as Bianca Lawson, who has been playing a teenager for LITERALLY 20 YEARS.

I have mixed feelings about her comment. And I wonder if it’s taken out of context? I mean, she’s 42 now so that’s sort of just biology happening. It’s ok if she chose not to have kids when she was younger. There are other ways to have kids i.e. adoption.

As humans live longer now than ever, makes sense to have children later in life. Sure more risks come with it, but having children is always risky. I'd rather 40 year olds having kids than 14 year olds.