I have the feeling that even he didn’t expect to get this far and if (GOD FORBID) he should get elected, he’ll see what the actual business of governing is like and be like, “This is too hard. I quit.”

That reflects how I felt when we started trying too. Suddenly you are just as stringently trying to get pregnant as you were trying not to just weeks ago. It takes some time to adjust.

I think you’ve really nailed it on the head. The acquiescence is what these people are seeking in a sexual partner and that is where issues of consent get murky.

This is what really bothers me here. It’s pretty well-established that Jian has attacked women. The trial has been so exclusively focused on what happened afterward that the actual assault have gone by the wayside.

My personal favorite is the woman who, having published all kinds of pro-women in academia/it was so hard for us in the 70s treatises, said at a party (totally casually) “I’d never hire anyone who can get pregnant”.

Defended my PhD at 8 months pregnant and filed just before my due date. I think I did some of my best work ever then because I was laser-focused.

I’m finding this thread fascinating. I never try to hide anything about my husband/kid when I’m teaching (although I only mention them if it makes sense). I think it’s extremely important to model for my students what possibilities exist for women in academia. I remember how important it was for me to see profs who…

This is one of the institutional issues with sexism. She thinks she’s protecting young mothers without actually asking what they might want. I had to tell one of my senior colleagues that instead of not offering people opportunities out of some misguided sense of protecting them, they should just ask.

I feel you. Hard. Had a kid while finishing my PhD. May not have been the wisest choice career-wise, but time was ticking.

It took over a year after my dad’s sudden death to really be impacted. It probably feels good to go on with the show for her. But I admit, she’s pretty incredible to go ahead with this.

It was a high-school reunion plot (I think Archie got divorced).

Academia compounds this because we're all supposed to be lone wolves with no oversight and no one ever wants to deal with conflict. (The second part seems to apply to everything everywhere too.)

I ordered a few dresses from Target clearance and some shirts. Those combined with a couple of pairs of pants from H and M (that were shockingly flattering...) got me through teaching, conferences, job interviews, and a wedding. And they were super-comfy and flattering on a biggish body.

I had one of the second category recently. She fancied herself quite mature and would often ask if I could handle everything and if I was okay with answering so many questions from her. Ummm...would you say that to a man?

I'm of the belief that evals would be most useful if done several years after the class when the student will have a far better understanding of what the teacher taught them and the maturity to appreciate how it was taught.

I just saw a presentation by an adjunct in my field who made that exact argument. When you give all the intro classes to the adjuncts who have no time and need good evals to survive, good grades for substandard work are easier to come by and students are unprepared for the challenges of upper-level work. And then they…

I am responding based on second-hand information from my sister who works with children in care, but she finds that very often grandparents who weren’t very good parents have a strong urge to prevent that with a second generation. As in, they can see where hey went wrong and want to prevent it a second time. And quite…

I always dress well to teach, mostly for how it makes me feel. I have colleagues who try to dress in a gender-neutral way, but I think it’s important for students to see that one can care about appearance and academics simultaneously. They just don’t realize that when they’re doing evals; it’s more of a long-term…

That’s too bad. The narrative comments are the most useful to me in terms of constructive feedback. Your 5/5 might mean someone else’s 3/5. The numbers are useless.

And care too much, and they’ll call you a nag. Seriously, I am not your mom.