So, I am another woman who absolutely does not recognize your description of how easy it is for women to be approached and find a husband. I am shy, so I definitely sympathize with how difficult it is to make the first move. But as someone who was maybe a 6, my gorgeous friends would have men following after them and…

And twenty bucks says he is none of the things he expects from his theoretical mate. But she - perfect, lovely, easygoing and wonderful she - should want him because he’s a nice guy, by which he means he hasn’t been convicted of a felony or kicked a puppy lately.

Maybe if exes all do the binder, the things added would be only the ones that are repeated by more than one ex. That would slightly reduce the odds of it being made up. Then again, I’ve dated a few guys who had 0 or 1 other girlfriend than me, so the information wouldn’t be as informative as those who’ve had multiple…

You took the lighthearted tone of my original post as a personal insult to you and needed to mansplain how wrong I was to everybody on this site. You basically used the #notallmen idea to respond to me. If we were having a conversation like this over an online dating site, I would not go out with you. That’s what I…

I really feel like you have channeled a lot of your personal frustrations into shaping your beliefs. There are certain social trends in the way men and women generally form and react to expectations when it comes to relationships, but it’s really not true that women can just sit and wait for something to fall in their…

Also, the inverse is true for a high number of sexual partners. But much less drastically. I really think that a man would get rejected for having a high number of sexual partners more readily than a woman with 0 sexual partners.

Bull shit. There are millions of single women in America who are never asked out, never approached in bars and are completely ignored by men. If you think that all a woman has to do to get a date is go out to a bar and wait to get approached, you have a very “all women are the same” vision of reality. NEVER IN MY…

Yup! which is funny cause I described him as long haired cake!

You and me both. When my now husband said he didn’t want children my eyes lit up like I’d just seen a merry go round made of cake.

It’s like when I start planning how to use three wishes granted to me by a genie. Because I know good and well they want to trick and trap you, so I work out exactly, precisely how to phrase the wish, and then all the things I’m going to adjust/change/improve in my bodily appearance...I can easily spend 2o minutes…

Professor Swan’s ex helpfully compiled a binder of his flaws, with which she then, correctly surmising that I would never have time to read it myself, kindly followed me from class to class for an entire week while reading aloud from it. It was indeed helpful, because it identified perfectly clearly why it would be…

I went to Catholic school, I’m not much of a believer. But I was always fascinated by the idea of the guardian angel. Except the angel doesn’t protect you. In my mind, it’s more of the Guardian Documentarian, or Guardian Biographer who shows you the biopic or biography of you after you die. The Guardian Biographer…

Maybe a cheat sheet? With headings like “questionable political beliefs,” “baggage from parents,” “housecleaning blind spots.”

Gaaaaaah looks like my former kitty when I picked her from the box of kittens, they were calling her “Cortez” cause she was an explorer, but I changed all that. Sooooo cute.

Mine would need “no child ever!” stamped on every cover. For some reason I give off a “Put a baby in me!” vibe. My bf thankfully doesn’t want children either.

Agreed, total lies. I’ve kept Mr. Werner for more than two decades, and his inability to avoid dressing like a bohemian vagrant has not once melted away.

Like when you’re asked at a job interview for your biggest weakness, so you try to describe something that’s really a positive. 

You can read them too, but you can’t make edits.

“The bad traits sort of melt away into the overall picture of who the person is.”