I know, but what feels right to you feels very wrong to me. But that's why we get to do our own thing. Yay feminism. :)

What if my ring is huge but the diamonds are fake, and cost less than $400? Haha. I honestly thought it was going to be smaller than it is because I ordered it online.

Here, 2 grand is a huge purchase. I know that's about what my fiance spent on the ring he bought for his ex (that he ended up in debt over) but she was an awful human being when it came to stuff like that and had NO clue what bills cost because she almost never had a job and her parents would always bail her out. My…

I like my friends. Now that we all live so far apart (yay jobs but boo moving), it's really hard to see them. The wedding is like a big friend reunion of sorts and I can't wait until next year to see them all but they are are remarkable people. That doesn't mean they are perfect, though. They just primarily study…

We saved money on a ring and bought an xbox one. We don't have cable, so for me, that was a good choice. He said he needs no more proof than that action to know how amazing I am haha. I just love that we can be us and be practical and boring and lovely. I wouldn't want it any other way!

Seriously. One of my friends wanted a courthouse wedding and a backyard reception. She had to have the blowout because her fiancee's family threw a fit. Another friend wanted a small outdoor wedding/reception-both families wanted a traditional church wedding so guess what she had. It's not like either of these women…

Ditto. In my circles, you'd have to explain your choice of a big fat diamond (was it a conflict diamond? why did you waste so much money? etc) much more than you'd have to explain a non-traditional ring.

Reading the comments...I didn't realize how rich you guys were! And the funny thing is you all don't think you're rich. You are. You are rich. I couldn't imagine spending 8 or 10 thousand on a ring. I can't afford that for a car!

He's involved in some different businesses. He does consulting. It seems a lot of the money is yet to come. Red flag #382.

Exactly what I wanted to know. $5000 when you make $15000 a month is spending on the cheap, but if you make $2000 a month it's just silly.

Yeah, I think the "two month's salary" thing is absolutely bat-shit insane and when my husband and I were engaged I told him if he spent that kind of money on a ring I would kill him (not that he would have anyway). He ended up getting me a vintage early 20th century ring, spent about half of what he would have spent…

I would just prefer not to have an engagement ring. I don't even want one at all. If a guy either a- spent a ton of money on a ring or b- asked for my hand from my dad I'd dump him on the spot because he obviously has no idea who the hell I am.

Yeah, I feel so lost reading this article. It has to be a regional thing. I can't think of a single person I know with a ring that cost over 2k. I remember one time my sister's boyfriend was saying he wouldn't buy an engagement ring that was less than 20k, but I always just assumed it was because he came from a…

I think this is really regionally different and also something that is strange to most of my friends who did NOT spend a mint on or refused to have a mint spent on a ring. We're all academics, feminists, and rather opininated about blood diamonds, though. Very few people I know got a "real" diamond. Most opted for…

Tell her to hold tight to that ring, she can use it to pay for her new life after she comes to her senses!

"I never thought I'd meet a man who would want to spend that kind of money on me."

Someone I love dearly but who has terrible taste in men is now engaged to a guy she's know for 5 months. He moved in with her days after meeting her, he bought her a promise ring that itself was almost $7000. He's going to buy her an engagement ring that's 6 figures. 6 fucking figures. When she told me how much it…

Anybody else here Team No Engagement Ring? Given that they started as a payment to affianced women for their potential decreased value on the marriage market if they had sex during the engagement and then the guy didn't seal the deal with the wedding ring, I opted out. I didn't need to be paid for my sexual value or…

Except the resale value of diamonds is beyond pathetic, since their price derives from marketing and a cartel, not scarcity or value. Make him buy you a house to propose!

Have you ever actually tried to get money out of a diamond? You get nowhere near the amount spent. DeBeers would have you believe that diamonds are a sound investment, but it's bullshit. If this sort of cynicism about marriage is your game, then ask for engagement gold bullion! :)