Oh my goodness! What a story! Could you tell me more about how you went about finding birth mothers? We are going through a local agency. Where do you go online? When my husband is done with training and we are more financially able, I’d love to explore surrogacy but my understanding is bring $70k to the table or go…

Thank you for sharing, I’m so happy to hear about your daughter. What is mthfr? How did you know that was the problem? Any tips about coping? Or do you just endure. I feel like that’s what women do, we endure.

You can also do a lot with furniture. I modge podged a badass coffee table and side table I got each for $10. We found another one we refinished. Happy hunting! Congrats on the new flat. Plants are a great way to breathe life and character into a new place.

Please! Tell me more. My hope is that we end up with another pregnancy AND an adoption. I was adopted and so was my brother. I’m really keen on adopting but a little bit intimidated by the process. But hell, same with pregnancy! How did your family come together!?

You know, TBH I never thought about looking into a local group. That’s a really good idea and I bet my provider would have some ideas.

Catholic Charities. I worked in social services a while back and had clients with furniture needs and my go to was the local “Ladies of Charity” and Catholic Charities. It’s a start! Goodwill is great too.

Dude I spend money on makeup when it’s worth it. The very best mascara I have EVER used is Maybelline Lots of Lashes. The pink bottle with the green cap and the wand that is kind of shaped like a wedge. It is super reasonably priced, it stays on, it helps you get amazing definition on top and bottom. I have tried more…

When I feel this way I go super small. What is one thing I can do right now? Wash my hair? Fold that laundry? And then when I do one or two manageable things, I feel a bit more in control and will try and make step one and maybe tow on a longer term project. You can do this, it doesn’t all have to happen at once! Take…

Okay so I would love input from people who have struggled with infertility. Because I am struggling. We unexpectedly had my son 4 years ago. It was a textbook pregnancy. I just assumed when we wanted a second, voila: baby! Well I have had 3 miscarriages in a year. One at 12 weeks, at home, that was profoundly…

It was infuriating. They literally are irate because their family wasn’t treated like they were above the law. Also scary is the mob mentality piling on this dude for not giving somebody’s wife special treatment. How he doesn’t deserve backup or some such. No wonder people are terrified to come forward and report…

Do they actually kill a horse?!?! Part of me would almost admire the gumption.

Lol In English or Korean? I’m not surprised it’s a lot like rescubots. I wonder if Voltron is the new transformer show he was talking about showing me. And we were watching the horse show this morning! I think it’s spirt stallion of the Cimmaron? You know what a good all around family pleaser is? Bobs burgers. It’s…

Right around this time with my son my breasts quit producing. We had to switch to bottle feeding and it was huge. I was feeding all the time, I was exhausted, I was a mess. I felt the way you did because it’s true: you, as the mother, do so much at the beginning. Switching to bottles let us share 50/50 and I finally…

I TOO SING THIS VERY SONG. I also found the PJ masks song super duper catchy. My 4yo has moved on from that and is into Rescuebots #1 (he spent all today in a chase costume and has taken to wearing the little hat most every day), Barbies Life in the Dreamhouse, and Miniforce rangers. He loves it and for like a month…

I got the advanced monitor not the pink one. But I like it, gotten pregnant 3 times with it in a year. Keep freaking miscarrying. I generally use the sticks from like day 10 to the first peak (mine does low, high, peak). I’m told the smart monitor gets better at reading your cycle and that’s def been true in my case.…

Yeah we’re trying to get pregnant and so I use the Clearblue fertility monitor and the “projected fertile dates” don’t line up perfectly with my actual ovulation dates. So if I was using it to tell me when I was in the all clear it’d be risky.  

Adoption is a long drawn out process too. We want a second child and I have been having miscarriages. But it’s expensive and intense. If that’s the way you decide to go I suggest you start sooner rather than later. The forms and requirements take awhile to gather then you have the homestudy and then you go on the…

Babies are frigging intense. All the care, all the time. Then as they grow they get more and more independent and you get to watch this little person emerge. I always wanted a kid but I wasn’t planning on having a child when we did but lo and behold... I got pregnant. I didn’t read blogs or books and I was almost the…

4. He hates travelling. It messes with the super controlled environment he likes/needs where he eats the same shit, watches the same TV, and doesn’t have to do much of anything. 

See I thought it was brilliant because it got me. I was watching, kind of giggling “would they do it? what would they show? oh my god!” and then I felt bad. Like, it pulled me along the narrative arc perfectly.