Plus he’s so upset that it happened, the aftermath of hitting you is always really hard on him. Yeah, lets talk about it like it wasn’t an actual stream of choices he made and more like a shared trauma we’ve both been through together.(Till its obvious you’ve let him back in again, then it was mainly you being such a…

I actually think that might be his daughter. ( I posted about it being grim but I just researched for other ones after throwing up, naturally,and I think it might be?)

Eughh, see this is why the whole “reasonably expected to control” element seems unnecessary to me. Here the focus shouldn’t be on how the victim is acting/reacting, its still bullying. Even if the victim wears a sign saying here is all my contact info and I never turn of my computer...so? If someone then bullies them…

My first thought when I saw the type of guys doing this was.... they know that women actually USE bathrooms right? These strike me as the kind of dudes who forget that women actually shit and whenever periods are brought up they run away with their fingers in their ears. Also, who the fuck wants to hang out in a…

HEY! That’s totally unfair! If it wasnt for that guy peeing in the women’s loo women would still be at risk. OF RAPE. He kept all those law abiding trans people out for you!! I think we need more men in isolated spaces with women,you know... to reduce rape. Cus that’s hows that works.

I’ve said this to a commenter above too but I sincerely mean it. You seriously posted some great stuff on this and on a completely selfish level it’s a much more nurturing comment section because of it so thank you. Nurturing is not quite the right word but I guess it feels like...solidarity? Also (as redundant as it…

Euuugh this post is so on point that’s all I can say. You have articulated this really well. I didn’t even realise I wanted to make this point and was preparing myself for another marathon comment writing section where I try and realise my feelings on this issue and put them across to people despite my complete…

I do think that in this article its a rather ungenerous (and presumptive) reading of why Roy used the word bullying. I think its quite commonly accepted that people, myself included, can downplay negative events for fear of repercussions or not wanting to appear a victim. I often call my rape sexual assault in front…

Yeah, that makes sense then. (While I have your attention- big fan BTW! haha) I see your point and your point to another commenter about how you can retaliate to a bigot and it not be bullying is very true also. I suppose I just think that bullying is bullying, you may be doing it for the best of reasons or you don’t…

I agree, IMO a death threat (isolated or not) is more serious than bullying- not that it cant be part of bullying as well. And when it’s an isolated death threat it’s different to a series of death threats, but similarly an isolated offensive rant is different to a large group of people systematically verbally…

I think a lot of what you said is great (as per) I kinda disagree with the “cannot be reasonably expected to control” thing. I suppose I think its too subjective? I guess taking it to its extreme I just believe that even if someone repeatedly chose to do something they’re getting bullied about (as long as it’s not…

Yeah I completely agree, whether or not you are being targeted for something within your control or out of it is irrelevant and kinda victim blamey if were not careful. For example I was bullied at one stage for hanging out with certain people (totally within my control). I could have stopped hanging out with them or…

Hey ! So for context I had a pretty serious illness and it left me with post viral fatigue (I’m only mentioning it because anecdotally I think people with experience of serious or chronic illness have a different relationship with their bodies.)

Also the “care” system in this country is a joke. Except it’s not funny it’s horrifying. All I can say is it’s not you its definitely them; no matter how widespread it is to make you doubt yourself. (And like I said, I don’t know your situation but in general I find charity care groups heavenly in comparison- like…

This may be TMI or triggering in your current situation and I haven’t ever really talked about this to... anyone actually, but your comment seemed to draw this response out of me so here goes. Please don’t feel the need for a reply, you’ve got enough on.

The Onion I think? It wasn’t sincere and the argument some made was that it was drawing attention to/mocking people who WOULD do that. But it also wasn’t very sensitive of the fact that as a black kid she really doesn’t need anymore of that shit, to say the least.

Eek, my first comment like this but seriously GREAT article. Poetic yet informative, depressingly realistic yet still hopeful etc. and all in just the right measures. I’m not articulating this very well but yeah... seriously good article :)

Yeah, but you can enjoy consensual sex you just like you can enjoy consensual photo-shoots and neither have any bearing on whether you are raped/photographed against your will. The difference is permission and violation. I’m not saying I can’t see potential complications with comparing this situation to rape but you…

It’s so inadequate but I empathise with what your going through and I’m sending you a sincere, giant internet hug, as useless as that sounds <3

Guys...WTF is a “top sheet”?! Have I been making beds wrong?! Is it another word for “bed sheet”- in which case who the fuck sleeps on a bare matress?! Or for “duvet cover”- in which case who sleeps without that, it’d be like having no pillow cases?! Why is Google not helping me with this?! WHAT IS HAPPENING?!