You forgot to add the 'Doo Dah, Doo Dah'.

Me too! I want to know why... Because I let the other person establish their sexual boundaries? Because I chat after movies? WHY?

Me too! I want to know why... Because I let the other person establish their sexual boundaries? Because I chat after movies? WHY?

For another take on this, I grew up with a live-in housekeeper. Yes, you read that correctly. And I still was taught by my mom to do my own laundry, clean a bathroom, and follow a recipe. Good thing, because I do not have a housekeeper now. Unless you count me half-assing it until the cat hair on the carpet shows…

Every step observed by hundreds of beady eyes...

The craziest part is the whole notion of a baby as stress relief.

I have the tuxedo version of that cat. I also have a vet sister who makes disapproving noises and mutters about diabetes each time she comes over.

Good for you! I love your version of marriage, too.

Good for you! I love your version of marriage, too.

I'm so sorry you didn't get the support you needed from your counselor! I'm glad to hear that the abuse is in your past now, along with your ex. I agree that there is a lot of magical thinking about the impact of getting married on a relationship. To use a religious story as a parallel, it reminds me of what our…

You are so right! My husband never has minded cleaning, laundry, etc. Yet I had to inform him that Febreezing the ass of your pants and using the same sheets for 2 months were not things a clean person does.

I would offer that things can be fluid, even in an egalitarian marriage. Before kids we split everything based on what chores we liked/hated/excelled at. Then we moved to a new city, had two kids, and totally changed our job situation- I stay home and he works 10-12 hour days 5-7 days a week. As you might imagine,…

On the flip side, my husband is horrified by the positive attention he gets when out alone with our kids. As he tells it, they are his kids, that he is actively parenting, yet he gets treated like some fucking hero for doing it. It is disturbing.

Did his church/beliefs advocate premarital counseling? To get married in the Catholic Church we (and anyone else doing the same) had to do two weekend workshops and have several individual and couple meetings with the priest marrying us. We did all this in Berkeley, which isn't exactly like doing it in the Vatican,…

I asked my friend's 5 year-old what he wanted to name his new sibling. He thought about it, then told me it could be named Flower or Blueberry.

I don't have a daughter, but my cat Ruby gives you +1.

This. This is my husband. He is brilliant and successful and has a big fancy office now, but he still knows every episode of Three's Company by heart because my in-laws believed more in co-existing than parenting. And yes, he has lamented to me about what his brain might have been were he not an encyclopedia of I Love…

I'm Catholic. My husband is Catholic. Between us and a third child are a Mirena and a vasectomy. I know no Catholic women under 45 who didn't at some point use birth control. Jesus isn't doing the laundry & making dinner around here, so two is enough.

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I have yet to have a friend who had a planned home birth not end up in the hospital. Small sample size, but...