Here is a list of thing I'm NOT saying:

No one knows more than I do what ACTUAL sexual violence can do to male children. The love of my life committed suicide in 2007 for the same reason. I understand it all too well and it is, indeed, a travesty. BUT - you can't compare ACTUAL sexual violence and its effects on those who are victims of it, to what this…

I hate to be "that girl" because I do think that Choe's comments should serve to open up a dialogue about the current problem with how Asian men are perceived in Western culture and how that perception often drives them toward overcompensating by being sexist and misogynistic assholes, BUT - I also think that Choe is…

If my post was too long for you to read, you shouldn't have read it. No one was forcing you. I was simply stating my opinion. You didn't respond with any adult statements that would open up a mature dialogue. You just used insults, which is how children argue. You obviously missed my whole point. What I'm talking…

I don't understand why people make this analogy. It's not comparable. The double standard is there for a reason. It's apples and oranges. I'm not saying it's impossible for women to perpetrate sexual violence against men. It's unfortunately very possible and I'm sure it happens more than we know. But it's a very…

Thanks for having the guts to state an apparently very unpopular opinion. Yes I anticipated the dogpile. I'm usually the one dissenting on here, so I'm used to the dogpile by now.

LOL of course if that kid was my son I'd be outraged. But I'd also be biased. You can't look at a situation like that impartially if the kid in question is your 14 year old son. Why people even bring this shit up is beyond me. If I was his mother I'd be furious but they also wouldn't let me sit on the jury either.…

You know, I KNEW someone was gonna say that. All we have here are assumptions. Because the kid is a minor I doubt they're gonna release his name and put him on the TODAY Show asking him whether or not he was embarrassed or not. All we can do is speculate. And speculate is exactly what the author of this article did.…

Maybe. That could be true. But the male middle school mind is VERY full of wanting to belong and wanting the kids at school to think you're cool.

Yeah your last two sentences are right on. I totally agree. What a nutbar. Who the fuck is like "Oh yeah this seems like a good idea." I just don't get people sometimes. I didn't ask several guys because I was taking a formal survey the results of which will be published in a peer reviewed journal. I asked several…

Yeah then he probably wouldn't have liked it. But in all probability, he isn't gay.

I only brought it up because of how serious the author of this article was being. About how the kid would've rather had a new pencil or a journal? Really? How the students may need counseling? Whether he liked it or not is, as I said, irrelevant to whether or not the teacher should be punished. I only brought it up…

Agreed.

Jesus Christ. I knew someone would bring this up. Of course it's different with a male teacher and a female student. It HAS to be different. What you said is totally true, about how guys are culturally trained to be always ready to fuck and that any resistance would result in ridicule. I get that. However, I believe…

I'm sorry those things happened to you. No one should have to endure sexual acts that they do not want or consent to. Period. End of story. I just think you're in the minority. And there's nothing wrong with that. If the kid was like "Yeah! Pussy's on my lap!" then that's cool, and if he was like, "I don't like this…

I understand only too well what can happen when a male is sexually molested by a trusted adult. The love of my life was molested and wound up committing suicide. So unfortunately I get it. I just don't see this as molestation. Honestly, I think we're focusing too much on the kid. My question is WTF was wrong with that…

1. And? I'm not sure what this has to do with anything. Are you saying maybe the kid was gay and therefore didn't like the lap dance? Maybe. But since we'll never really know that definitively one way or the other it's kind of moot. All we can do is speculate, and in all probability he was probably not gay.

I know this is an old entry but I just came upon it now. I was (am?) the unattractive friend who goes after hot guys. With me, I wouldn't say that the guys I go after are stereotypically hot, but they are almost always out of my league. The guys that go for me I am rarely attracted to. I'm not "odd looking" like you…

As far as the sexually harassed woman goes, I can totally understand why she's mad at her friends (been there, girl). But honestly, there's nothing wrong with staying out of the situation when 2 of your friends have a problem, and I don't think that the specific problem in this case being sexual harassment makes that…