Oh yes, much better! Wedding set for September 2019 to a guy who genuinely likes me and only makes a slightly negative comment about my appearance when I ask! :D 

What gets me about entitlement is the perfect shield it forms against reality. Even when you told this guy, bluntly, that the whole rom-com performance was gross and scary and UNLIKABLE, he just tuned it out. Every single one of women’s objections can be slotted into guys like this responses, like a Choose Your Own…

They’re not silent online, or in communities where they think comments are safe. (I’m a woman who frequently got “friend-zoned” due to my appearance, so I got to hear allllll about other women from my guy friends.)
What I noticed is, yes, there are plenty of men who have a high threshold for embarrassment but it’s...…

I think it’s a few different things. As a guy who internalizes everything and gets so embarrassed that I’m still haunted by social miscues from years ago.

When I was on OkCupid (which I call “OkStupid”), I used to get messages like that:

I didn’t want him to know where I lived so I stopped a block away and said, “Look, romcoms lied to you. I don’t like you. I think you’re a rude jerk who won’t leave me alone. I’m doing my best not to give you the impression I like you because I don’t. Please go home now.” The whole time he never took me seriously and…

“But the embarrassment that comes with being a woman can feel wholly inevitable: Being too forward; talking too much; not talking enough; seeming too shy; texting too soon; coming across like a bitch or coming across as too easy. For every overstep there’s the possibility I’ll lose ground just standing still. The fear…

Yeah, I know a ton of men who get embarrassed very quickly around dating. Like, even moreso than the author of this piece seems to be by herself. Not sure if this is a case of “well nobody internalizes things as deeply as me” (which I think is a fairly common and normal way to think) or if these men just don’t get…

Men feel like women should only feel beautiful if men tell them they are.

I’m a gay man but I have male and female friends. One thing I’ve noticed in talking with my guy friends about women is that, in general, men do not respect women.

When I was single, I remember talking politics with some guy I’d met at a party. He tried to call me out for something, and I sternly nailed him back with facts and data. I sincerely thought he was a jerk because of the way he smugly raised his objections to my argument and rolled his eyes. I walked away.

When it comes to getting sex or attention or a date, men have no threshold for embarrassment.

I often think about that one girl who when guys would text her “You are beautiful” she stopped demurring and would respond with “Yes, I know.” And the responses she would get would be amazing, in fact, down right hostile. Patriarchy doesn’t want women to be confident in any sort of arena—men make the rules, and the…

Hands will still be ice cold.

Living in Japan, the biggest thing my partner and I can see is the quality of life and options available to women. Sexualization in school uniform policies, rules that kick girls out of school for getting pregnant (but leave the boys), inadequate sex ed, being asked about marriage status in interviews and forced out…

Article fails to mention that there are no laws in place that punish discrimination against pregnant workers. I’m so fucking sick of global demographic mysteries that have answers screaming in your face. White men shoot up schools and churches because they’re violently bigoted. Mystery solved. There aren’t enough…

People are awful. So I’m sure they’ll find some way to shame and/or force women into marrying shitty men and popping out babies.

Japan does have a problem, but honestly this is the most humane way for humans to reduce our population. The fewer of us there are the less energy we need to produce and the less food we have to waste.

On top of that xenophobia is culturally built in sexism, that more or less makes women chose between careers and family life. It seems that many women there are not interested in playing ball in this system.

And it’s also gilded, not somehow carved out of a piano-sized block of gold.  For those not up on their gilding facts, small sheets of gold that are a couple of thousands of an inch thick are glued onto a background.  It looks impressive, but doesn’t take a lot of gold.