Hi. Petite, heavy-chested woman here. And no. Just no, buddy.

Ahem. I have not killed a plant in almost a year

WHOA WHOA WHOA YOU HAVE NIPPLES!??!! I’M OUT!

The one petite chick with big tits that I know (she’s about 5 feet tall and she’s thin and a C/D cup) wouldn’t knowingly be in the same room with him if you paid her for it.

So twice I read that as “a friend who has had an incredible dog his whole life,” and I thought the implication was that if he’d gotten a fleshlight when he was younger, he wouldn’t have had to screw the dog. I was deeply upset until I did a more accurate third read. Just wanted to share that with you.

First order of business

“Physically, it’s really not that important...but I do have a type.” OF COURSE YOU DO.

Real question: why is this so often true?

“I’m not attracted to women my age” — douche radar ping

he likes “petite women that are heavy chested”

I’m not sure it’s as terrifying as you think it is.

I know nothing about this man, but I get the feeling that at no point during his marriage to this woman, did it ever matter to him whether his wife was consenting to sex or not.

Not necessarily. It could include “if, then” statements just like an AD.

Could we (as a society) create some vehicle for legal future consent? Like an advance directive, but like “Hey caretakers, don’t get in the way of my sex life with my husband” at some later date, with bounds for what is reasonable?

How charitable of you.

Yeah, I really don’t understand the inclination to assume the absolute worst of total strangers based on zero evidence (and I’m not trying to be a jerk to OP, I just see this attitude a lot and it honestly confuses me).

I really wish I knew more about this situation. I think we do a great diservice to elderly people by assuming they are no longer sexual beings.

I agree it sounds like he was informed. But, just as a hypothetical, what if he has early dementia/Alzheimer’s? He’s 78 so not out of the realm of posibility. Maybe he completely forgot the conversation with the doctors and thought she consented when he was visiting with her?

Not trying to justify, just a thought that…

So are children of nursing home residents. I worked in a nursing home as a teenager; my mother is still a nurse at one. She’s told me many stories of residents in dementia wards getting it on with each other— and the only people who are really horrified are the children. “Ick, Mom/Dad is too old for that!” My mom, who…

All of the commentators are in arms about this because it appears they’ve decided to completely believe the prosecution’s version of events. That’s usually a bad idea!