You went a little darker than I wanted to, but I had a lot of similar thoughts while we decided to get pregnant. There is a lot of heartache in the world and I can’t guarantee my children’s futures, yet I love being part of a family and don’t want that to end when my parents eventually die, so I chose to have a kid.…

I was trying to figure out how to say most of what you said here. Thanks. And props to you for admitting that a lot of the ambivalence comes from avoiding fear. I see way too many people doing this - putting off decisions, ignoring the true cause of things because it’s unpleasant.

This is where I am at. We are still more “not trying” than “trying” (i.e. pullout, sorry TMI), but every month I kind of find myself hoping a little more than an “accident” happened. People can say “if you don’t know you shouldn’t be having kids,” but I do not think that is fair. It is something I want eventually, but…

I disagree. It is not black and white for a lot of people (pretty much everyone I know actually). They are lucky enough to have had really great lives before they had kids...and most of them wanted kids, but were scared to fully commit to the idea of “we are going to try for a kid now.” When the people I know who got…

Most of my friends’ children were (allegedly) conceived this way. For me (and my husband) I think the ambivalence comes from both fear and comfort. We have worked very hard (and are lucky) to have lives, a relationship, and routines that we are (on the whole) very happy with. Even if you want a child, deciding to pull…

This is really hard to talk about because so many people have such strong opinions about it. About half my acquaintances with children were the ambivalent, imperfect birth control users and a few of them have infuriated me by calling their pregnancies “birth control babies.” Um, no. You didn’t read the instructions,…

Honestly, I’m not sure if I want kids or not, and would probably welcome the decision being made for me, either via an oops or lack thereof.

I just got an IUD last month and it is wonderful, but I seriously can't wait to rip this sucker out in 2-3 years and make a baby with Chalupa Batman.

That’s... not what the article is about? It’s specifically and loudly about unplanned pregnancies that lead to wanted children,

why didn’t she start campaigning against that before her child died?

Who the fuck would target Regional Center? My brother is a client and I have met many RC employees. They are kind, compassionate people working for very little pay. Shooting people who dedicate their lives to helping people with disabilities! What a travesty!

People have also given free passes to Mike Tyson, Miles Davis, James Brown, Al Green . . . Obviously you can’t divorce race from these cases, but it’s not as simple as “white people are okay with white men beating women but not black men.” The biggest factor as to whether the public moves on or not tends to be the…

The issue became a great popular obsession, but it took decades to wrangle all the necessary stakeholders, officials and taxpayers for basics like upgraded sewers. Various reformers would emerge and propose grand schemes, but the decentralized nature of local government made it damn near impossible to get anything…

Here’s a video of another Aussie who is mistaking a SMALL tornado for a dust devil. Notice how, at the end, he is running for his life and also most likely pissing in his pants.

Fuck yeah, I would have run up and danced around that cute, but very atmospheric, dust devil (probably even sober, on a good day).

Calling that thing a tornado is an insult to tornados everywhere.

Entwives, then? Could explain a lot. They swam over to Australia to plant some gardens and got just completely and totally lost.

It’s not a tornado it’s a dust devil.

It’s really not any grosser and meaner than anything else we eat, though. And from the sound of it, these animals have vastly better lives than the factory-farmed cows, pigs and chickens we eat every day.

Consideringwomen’s rights and humane treatment of animals to both be important is only a logical fallacy if you are an idiot.