I’m so sorry :( All my love.

Some people poke around nicely, and I give them a break. It’s the people that repeatedly try to tell you that they’re your parents/ it couldn’t be that bad/ etc that I just give up on and go for shock and awe. I think you’re doing fine :)

I’m excited for you. I’m 6 years out and it’s better than ever. I do recommend therapy if you can get it for this transition time. Best of luck!

THIS. I’ve stopped being polite. If I nicely say I don’t have parents and they keep going, picking it apart and looking for reasons why I should have them in my life... I go blunt. “My mom allowed my dad to rape me for 10 years, stranger.” I love the look on their faces and I’m not sorry at all.

I had to do that with my only brother. It’s hard, but worth it. I told him I couldn’t have a relationship with him anymore. I explained why, and then I asked him to never contact me again. So far, so good. He recently had a baby and married and it was hard because I wished I could get that newborn girl out of there…

The fact that you’re worried about it means you will be fine. It means it matters to you and you’re aware of the importance and work it takes. Have a wonderful labor and delivery, it’s going to be okay! xoxoxo

I’m becoming that mom specifically because I relied on those neighborhood moms my whole childhood. They were the best parents I never had.

She is the piece of shit here. You are worth way more than that.

Same.

I can’t drink, but I will smoke pot and eat too much pizza and cry.. if that’s cool with you.

Thank you for this post. I needed this. I broke up with my parents 6 years ago and Mother’s Day is always hard for me. I wish I could celebrate it joyfully with my own kids, but this is the one day a year when I think of her. I forget her smell and what her hands looked like. I’ve completely lost the sound of her her…

I will pay to shit on it.

All I can think of is barbecues.

Her eye makeup is what I wish I could figure out for myself, so pretty!

I’d like Bye Bye Bye at mine, for ultimate silliness. I love Modest Mouse and I’m a negative nancy so I think “The View” is pretty good, too.

WHAT. So $250 to use your existing debit card?

Thank you. I have PTSD and bipolar disorder and I am really open about it with people because I want them to see a functioning person, that they know and like, and maybe then their ideas people with pretty intense mental illness change a little. It’s painful when people yell MENTAL ILLNESS! at every bad behavior story…

I’ll second that. Also, maybe stop putting the tip on the card you pay with. I’ve done that before because it’s easier for me, but after reading this I’ll drop that fat tip discretely into the manicurist’s hands.

Ask who what?

He was not asked if he was married or had children when he was scheduled. I showed up on the day of the procedure. Being married had nothing to do with it.