the rom com argument is silly, women and men arent on the same level in society. Also, having to do things you find humiliating and physically painful, not to mention surgically altering your body isn't on the same level as buying some damn flowers or having a date night.

I'm glad you've found a situation in your marriage that works for you. I've experienced the opposite in multiple relationships ("What's wrong with you? Why won't you do xyz? Why do your boobs sag?") and am not sure if this is only me or if others have experienced it.

the problem is, precisely, that most young men DONT understand the difference between entertainment and real life sex. that's the issue. porn in itself isnt. Most young men are that misinformed when it comes to women and sex, really. And some of the ones who do understand the difference, still desire the fantasy…

I guess I can only point to my personal experience, but I've found the use of porn to both be hurtful and mess with my significant other's expectations in almost every relationship I've been in. I'm glad you've found it to be more benign.

The wonderful, brilliant, and hilarious singer/songwriter Robyn Hitchcock once likened religion to porn, saying that it too co-opted a basic human need, in this case the need for meaning, and channeled it into the hands of a few very powerful people who make a lot of money off of it and exert control over our lives.

I'm in my mid-20s and I really struggled with this in my late teens. I didn't want guys to cum on my face. I didn't want to get brazilian waxes. I had (and still have) real boobs that aren't silicone. And the disappointment men verbally expressed at my desires and body was heartbreaking.

Not concern trolling, if you ask me. I believe that this much constant porn can't be good for a few reasons: Boys and young men are being exposed to professional-level sex that your average woman generally doesn't want to have, and being shown a robotic version of the female body. So the pretty normal 17 year old…

I agree.

I'm not anti-porn, but I think that the sheer amount consumed in our society can be problematic. I know someone who can't easily have an orgasm without porn. And as much as people try to act cool with it, it can be painful to find out that your SO looks at porn. Especially if they haven't been honest about it. I could…

I don't know, but they need to. It's affecting society and relationships on an almost universal scale.

I have a friend who can only orgasm while jacking off to porn. When he has sex with a real live lady he fakes it after she gets off, rips the condom off and flushes it before she can see there's nothing there. I don't know if that's addiction or what but I do know its really effing sad.

Absolutely. I don't think it can be disputed. Everyone's experience is different, but some of the things that have been said to or expected of me are outrageously unrealistic and quite obviously inspired by porn. I HATE the effect it's had on me, and I don't even watch it.

I think compulsive is a good way to put it. I consider porn, gambling, internet, etc to be in the same category. Not a physiological addiction, but a definite problem for some people, far more than for most.

Eh, don't get hung up on the word 'addicted'. Call it whatever you want. The issue is that daily porn consumption does burn patterns into mens' brains. Particularly boys who started puberty during the modern high-speed, unlimited video options era. Their plastic brains and sexual preferences are being shaped by this…

But does no one think that easy-access porn CAN be detrimental to romantic relationships on a macro level? I know it's considered "concern-trolling" but does no one besides me feel like they are held to a different standard because of what people are accustomed to seeing in porn?

That certainly sounds awful. But it is not uncommon for serial killers to lie through their teeth about the number of people they killed. Shockingly, they are not the most reliable people.

Apparently, I'm the only one who remembers the circumstances around this sketch on account of my giant girl-crush on Page, but the month or so leading up to the show was full of rumors about how Page was a closeted lesbian. As the show drew close, people openly wondered in the media if Page would use SNL as…

Remember when Jake Gyllenhaal came out in that cowboy skit? That was suh-weet!!

Ellen Page is from my home town and while she never exactly kept it "secret" (you'd be hard-pressed to find someone in Halifax, NS, who didn't know she was gay), it's still awesome that she came out officially. Yay Ellen!

No, Ellen Page came out yesterday in a heartfelt speech. For me, the pain was palpable and I thought it was timely, brave, and awesome. She was playing a character, in a skit, on a skit-show 6 years ago. In the spirit of not making assumptions, I prefer to let people tell me what they are. Does that mean my gaydar…