Um, I had the same thought. More accurately, my thought was “That’s the first time I’ve been called middle-aged” and it was terrifying.

I find huge cats terrifying. My grandfather’s cat and her kitten kill things twice their size for fun, and they’re tiny. Enormous cats just seem like a veritable threat to me.

I didn’t change mine and honesty I was surprised how quickly everyone got it and I’ve seen nothing but respect for it. Even the municipal official’s speech during the ceremony reflected it - they’d usually say “And now let’s congratulate the new family [surname]!” but apparently they have an expression for people like…

Whatever you decide, you’ll get shit for it :( Sadly, people think other people’s private decisions are their business and a good many are very involved in either patriarchal or feminist policing (though the latter are fewer, for obvious reasons). I hope whatever you decide you don’t encounter many of those assholes.

Selfish? Are they fucking serious? Their insistence that they not only keep but also get to force their name on their partner, AND pass it on the new generation is just common sense, but your wish to just merely keep your birth name is selfish? Fuck those assholes.

Nope. No, there isn’t.

I personally feel it is desirable to offer a podium to assholes like this to express themselves, that way people can use their free speech to discuss how those dudes were being assholes. Let culture solve these problems.

I agree, because it fallaciously assumes that non-bigoted people are the majority, so that when the few bigots announce themselves, “normal” people would be horrified. In reality bigots are sadly a majority and especially when it comes to sexism, most men would cheer. That’s been my experience at least. The result is…

I haven’t said anything about banning - I just expressed my opinion on the merits of this kind of culture. A thing can be criticised without calling for its illegalisation.

Of course I’m not advocating for outlawing this. I thought this was under the jurisdiction of the university and it could deal with it. I see from the other replies now that it’s not. It’s still depressing and potentially alienating and threatening so even if nothing can be done about it, I’m going to say I find it…

Yes, the world is a hostile and threatening place for most people, but misogyny adds to that for women; and this is an example of that IMO.

I didn’t, or I wouldn’t have used it to comment. Thanks for informing me, I feel a little better, especially since the other one said “Sex toddlers” :/

It all sounds reasonable, but... sometimes I just get tired of encountering disrespect or harassment or stereotyping, etc. everywhere I turn. It’s just exhausting. It would be nice if there were more safe(r) spaces in life.

Because then it wouldn’t be a power trip. Which is the whole point.

It still creates a hostile and even threatening environment, especially considering the freshmen are young and it’s their first time living outside their childhood homes.

Why would anyone be proud of sexual ignorance? It seems like it’s an attempt to “reclaim” ignorance of the female anatomy as an expression of dominance (“I couldn’t care less because your pleasure doesn’t matter”) instead of something any reasonable person who wants to have sex with an owner of a clitoris should be…

You know, on the other hand, I got married after a 7-year relationship and by the time we went on a honeymoon our honeymoon was long over. It must be nice to experience that heady time when you’re constantly all over each other and have sex 8 times a day on your actual honeymoon.

Make Jesus famous? That doesn’t seem like a terribly unaddressed issue...

I’ve got to respect the tabloids’ devotion to matching pictures with the supposed emotions/states the subjects are supposed to feel/be in. It’s impressive.

Cillian Murphy lies about his age?! I’ve loved him ever since Disco Pigs and then Breakfast on Pluto :(