I agree that it sounds like LW2 is waiting for the right, high-paying job, which she literally can’t afford to do. The interview/approval process could take FOREVER! I have close to 15 years of experience in my industry, but the corporate process to get my current job took about two months, and I had to go through…

10000000%. Here’s what I can tell you about families: they’re systems. They literally never have one, randomly-occurring ass hole. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’re all ass holes (sometimes it does), but it does mean that Morgan’s behavior has been reinforced since time immemorial. Not only that, it’s been…

No, I think they humor Morgan because they want to see their grandchildren.

I interpreted it as Jane telling the LW to be less defensive, since the LW kept bringing it up as a defense to Morgan’s bitching. She has the degree, she should be proud and nothing can take that away. Of course Morgan sucks (and the parents? honestly not sure what exactly the dynamic is here) but her degree is kind…

I wanna star you for your name........ “You LOOOOOOOOVED Brad”.

This entire family has used the childhood chant “I’m rubber you’re glue” as their method of relating to one another.

Yes. If you’re spending 8 hours a day, any day, playing with a cat you can be spending 8 hours a day working at a suboptimal job, or even volunteering or interning for your resume or, I dunno, doing some house or yard work for your parents who provide you with free room and board at the age of 24.

That’s the truth. I generally think Jane’s advice is usually too harsh, but the truth is, despite getting loans, she hasn’t done it all on her own. Yes, it’s commendable to put yourself through school, but a lot of people don’t have a fallback option with free room and board, and you have to acknowledge that is a…

I have a feeling letter-writer is expecting a high salary right off the bat just because of her degree, and she’s never going to get it without some experience. Instead of using the free rent to do an internship relevant to her field, she’s just sitting around sending resumes to out-of-league jobs and playing with the…

They are already favoring one child over the others by not shutting down her delusional and destructive behavior. Maybe they are doing this to maintain access to the grandkids. But it seems like the mother is fanning the fire.

I’ll cosign this and add that using Tinder/Bumble while traveling is even better! There’s a time limit to get that action if you want to do it, no way to draw out the flirtation, and then you never have to see them again unless you swing through town in the future and you’re both still single! Did that a few years ago…

I think her point is that someone is not fundamentally worth less as a human being if they haven’t completed grad school. Not that the LW shouldn’t be very proud of finishing grad school.

I would also like to add that the parents are probably doing it because they look like the good guys among all three of their kids. This way they maintain contact with all of them. Otherwise, if they favored one child over the other, even if that child is in the “right,” they will lose contact with the other sister/s…

Totally the parents are allowing co-dependent behavior on both sides.

but I just couldn’t bring myself to outright ask a Tinder match for sex.

This is very intuitive and I agree.

You are so right. The mom had no reason to share the texts from Morgan.

To the post-grad living at home: Maybe I misunderstood, but it seems like your parents are playing you and Morgan off each other (you reading texts on Mom’s phone - I assume with her permission?). Or, at the least, your parents should be firmly and resolutely stopping your sister from hurling about all of these false…

WORD. I lived in Belgium the last few years and recently relocated to England. We’re the laughing stock. It gets incredibly frustrating (and old) explaining that “No, most people don’t like Trump, a lot of those who voted for him now have remorse, and yes, I fucking hate him..” ad nauseum. What’s worse is that my son…

Hey, thanks for this message, I really appreciate it. It’s good to have some outside perspective and look at the big picture. It’s just really painful and embarrassing right now.