I wish more people understood this. Service people are being paid to be nice to you. Whether they enjoy the interaction is immaterial. Charlie Sheen once said about sex workers that he wasn't paying them for sex, he was paying them to go away. This is literally the crux of service work. All of it.

So weird. I’m not going to assume that he’s looking to take his relationship to a personal level with this woman, but that’s what I would feel like as a service professional whose regular customer swapped out a verbal thank you for a secretive letter. It’s also possible that she’s trying to get other patrons to…

It’s anxiety-inducing to you and potentially life-threatening to the woman in question. Men approaching us are like gun owners, safe right up until the moment they’re not. And everyone is going to wonder what the woman who got attacked did to cause that man to attack her. So, women in general are going to err on the…

Send the note to her boss. Anything else is going to put her on her guard. This is why compliments via DM or messenger that could just be done on the timeline are immediately shady. You might be harmless and have only good intentions, but you’re likely in the minority. Likewise, an innocent, complimentary reaction to…

Ha. My tall friends and I joke about the short girls stealing all of the tall men. Your sister would fit right in with us.

Oy. Is that the truth. I’m a tall, thinner women who used to be a tall, fat woman. I almost miss being fat. When I was fat, the quantity of men approaching me was lower, but the average quality was better. 

It’s especially fun when you call them on it and they start ranting about height discrimination and male oppression by the matriarchy. I really don't mind dating shorter men but in my experience, they tend to be angry while tall men tend to be quieter, good-natured people. 

As a fellow tall girl, though, admittedly, not as tall as that girl, good guys are still more important to me than tall guys. But I often wonder what the guy who is clearly half a foot shorter than he says he is thinks I’m going to say about the fact that he is staring right up my nostrils. That’s a major lie and some…

Or on a dating site.

Hah. At least it’s better than the ones who tell me they’re 5'11" and end up topping out at 5'8". Like I somehow wouldn't notice that I'm towering over them. 

I’m 5'9" and that ‘men reacting with domineering impulses’ thing happens down here too. Or maybe it’s that I’m typically 6' in my shoes.

The accuracy here.

More like 5'8" telling me he’s 5'11" as I’m looking down at him from 6'1" in my favorite shoes.

No, you’re not. My dad was 6'4", I legitimately thought 6'2" was average height until I went to college. And my dating pool consisted of 20,000 5'8" resentful nerds.

As a 5'9" woman, any man who has ever told me he's 5'11" has never been a millimeter over 5'8". Like I don't have eyes. So, it's not like I'm breaking out a measuring tape for a distance I likely won't be able to verify without it. You would likely be eye to eye with me in the shoes I wear daily. 

That collection was a retread hot mess before they even got to the ridiculous stunt with the strait jackets. 

Passing over the possible trafficking/rape of an underage girl aspect of this, how up your own ass do you have to be to consider having (paying for) sex with members of a marginalized group of people activism? Like. No. That is not a thing.

In my friend group, it’s been the reverse. Shoestring budget weddings in our 20s and big fancy to-dos in our 30s. I’ve made it a rule that I no longer attend backyard budget weddings where the ceremony is 5 minutes long, the food is crowdfunded pizza, they run out of drinks in a half hour, seating is either one of 5…

You weren't aware that those places are people's offices? Bless your heart.

This. Especially because the furthest length to which all of these pearl-clutchers will go is to police the use of the word. No one is going to be volunteering at shelters, lobbying for changes in the law, or serving on community task forces. But, sure, a great service has been done by eliminating ‘crack pie’ from the…