I believe you’re fairly young, from your mention of university, so let me just say this from an older perspective — by your 30s, that idea that there’s something wrong with “breaking up over sex” seems absurd. It’s fine to break up over sex.

Just break up. I’m not being a jerk. I’m being serious. You’re incompatible.

I grew up in a repressive religious environment like your girlfriend, and had a very similar issue with my first boyfriend. He patiently waited for me to be “ready” for about a year, at which point we began having sex. But you know what? It didn’t fix anything. I needed to address my sexual hangups on my own. We broke…

If you straight up end the relationship because of this incompatability it’s not coercive, but if you stay in the relationship (or return to it) on the condition that she has sex with you then it is coercive. You need to make a clean break, and not leave her in a position where she agrees to sex she doesn’t want to…

I feel like the fact you are so concerned about this says a lot of good things about you, and as an internet stranger I’m sorry you are having to go through this!

I get the impression you feel like not seeing eye to eye about sexual needs isn’t a good enough reason to split. You’re not a monster if you want/need more than she does. It’s the same if you wanted kids. Or any other fundamental difference like religion... Or how you handle finances. It really really matters. You’ve…

Haha yeah this is why the electoral college is bullshit. After the primaries, I have literally *no* say in the presidency. I live in a Blue State so blue that its wavelength could be used for a laser diode. Same with my old hometown — just that amount of red.

There is no problem if you leave her because she doesn’t want to have sex with you, but if she gives in to your “ultimatum” or whatever you want to call your explanation to her, and she has sex with you, then you are using emotional blackmail to coerce her into sex, which is rape. How would you feel if she had sex…

Look at it (and explain it to her) this way; she needs to be with someone for whom holding off on having sex makes them happy. You are not that person, and you are keeping her from finding that person who is the right person for her. I don’t mean to word it that way so as to place blame, but that really is the the…

In some ways, it is like any other irreconcilable difference: She’s a devout Muslim, and you’re a practicing Jew. (Seriously, I had a Jewish friend who was dating a conservative Muslim woman and they had the same sexual issues) She likes to drink and do drugs, and you are straightedge. She wants to remain childless…

I don’t see that as coercive. From how you tell it, it sounds like you have both been very honest about and accommodating of each other’s needs, which is fucking awesome. It also sounds like you’ve given it a great effort, you’ve respected her wishes and needs, and haven’t pressured her to do things she is not…

I don’t think so, and this is a very valid reason for ending a relationship. You have needs that aren’t being met by the relationship. Tell her you don’t want to coerce her into doing something she doesn’t want to do and you also don’t want her to compromise her religious beliefs, so you’re leaving. You love her but…

I can’t wait to do the math, if there is a middle class tax increase. Because if the additional taxes I have to pay are less than my medical premiums, and also everyone gets healthcare coverage, then it’s worth every penny.

Yeah, Chelsea sounds insane there. Wondering who came up with the brilliant idea to have her speak on this issue.

Goddamn it. I seriously do not want to vote for her. Like everything is telling me she is TERRIBLE. Horrible. No good.

Hey, thanks for stepping up the coverage of the democrats. In the beginning when Sanders announced, you guys didn’t give him much (and what coverage there was was negative), but after the first few months, it’s improved greatly, and you guys have been calling them both out when need be.

What a bizzaro statement from Chelsea. Thank god the primaries will be over in a few months.

Sadly, I mentally tack on a “and what’s the deal with...” to practically everything Sanders says or writes.

A single-payer system would require large tax increases; it would also mean that nobody would pay for private insurance anymore.

This is a spectacular fuck up on the Clinton campaign’s part. Way to alienate undecided democrats.